Courtesy of Beall Phillips, given at a recent bridal shower.
1. Praise him privately, sincerely, for something different once a day.
2. Praise him publicly, in front of others, and to others.
3. Watch your words: Remember that what you say has a powerful influence over him.
4. Keep yourself attractive. Freshen up and look your best when he comes home, even if dinner burned and the dog messed on the carpet.
5. Write him notes, handwritten and e-mail, to remind him you are thinking of him.
6. Be the first to say I’m sorry, mean it, and don’t make it conditional on anything.
7. Pick up after him cheerfully, without drawing attention to it, just because you love him.
8. Make him your focal point, not your housekeeping, not your cooking, not even your children. If your relationship with him is solid and happy, everything else will fall into place. Make him successful in every way you can, and remember, if he is successful, you will be too.
9. Remember the “bigness” of the diverstiy your roles: sweetheart, confidant, counselor, best friend, encourager. Remember they all add up to: completer.
10. Pray for him continually and NEVER forget the burden of responsibility he carries as the head of your home.
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okay, i’m thinking, this is such typical kimness…..i’m reminded of the fruit of her hands. i think the key here is to look at these items and strive to do them, realize that as humans we will fall short somewhere, but with goals like this……a happy marriage is a sure thing!
oh yeah, i think i would put pray for him continually first, just because for me, that would be the foundation for the other good works.
So where’s the Ten Tips for a husband to encourage his marriage?
Norah
So where’s the Ten Tips for a husband to encourage his marriage?
Silly Norah. The marriage is an institution for the man. The woman is the slave that he gets for getting married. Thus, it is her job to “encourage” the slavery.
Norah,
Here’s one to get you started, if you’d really like to know.
And for further reading, here is a list of many other articles by the same author on the topic of Christian husbands.