Kim, Can you help me? I mother of 7 must know a bit about potty training. I have my first DD who is almost 3 (in about 5 weeks). She knows how to use the potty, wipe, flush and clean up after herself. However, no incentive will get her to go on her own. She doesnt even mind sitting in poop. Which is odd because I have always been quick to change her. I have tried chocolate, using a doll that wets, a wrapped present as an incentive to stay dry and on and on. My mother says that she just doesnt seem to care, she can do it, but feels no reason to. I am at my whits end with training right now. I have also tried taking away a priviledge or two, but that hasnt worked either. Do you have any ideas? Jennifer
Nearly 3yo is a little late, but not too unusual. Your daughter just may not have the maturity for potty training yet. We did have 1 child who didn’t see the need for toilets until long after she understood the use for toilets. Like your daughter, ours was content to run around in soiled pants until somebody else noticed.
When we were sure that she understood the requirements, we made it a discipline issue for her. Accidents were acceptable but had to be reported and cleaned up immediately – if not, she got swatted. Firmly.
Once she realized that her play time came to an abrupt break whether or not she actually used the toilet for her business, our daughter was much more motivated to use the toilet. She found that using the toilet was faster than using her pants, finding Mom to file an accident report, and cleaning up the aftermath to the best of her 3.5yo abilities.
When one of my younger siblings wasn’t reliably toilet trained at a reasonable age, he found that he missed out on some fun outings. Not as punishment, mind you. Simple, natural consequences. If you can’t be counted upon to use the bathroom, how can you go with your other sisters and brothers on a weekend camping trip, or to Bigname Theme Park? He missed one really exciting outing, and suddenly became more motivated to use the toilet.
That’s my answer. What’s yours?