I have three little ones…ages 5, 3, and 18 months. None of them sleep through the night. The 5-year-old has autism and I think will probably always have trouble sleeping…I am not so worried about him.
It’s the younger two girls that are making me nuts! They both wake several times during the night and I have to get up and tend to them.
Our house is very tiny and the girls share a room. Letting one of them cry it out would mean the entire house would be awake. I wouldn’t even mind that except that I don’t want to wake my husband. He has to get to work, and he is not very good with night-time wakings. We are better off if daddy gets to sleep!
I just haven’t figured out a low-noise way to get them to sleep through the night.
From the mailbag: getting little ones to sleep all night
February 6, 2009 by 9 Comments
This might not be what you were hoping to hear but my best advice would be to make sure hubby is on the same page and give up trying to do it without a lot of noise.
If you are consistent, the adjustment really shouldn’t take long and will be worth the sleep you and your husband lose.
If that simply isn’t an option, I would try to sooth them without getting them out of bed or turning on any lights. Don’t necessarily *put* them back to sleep, since they need to learn to do this themselves, but help calm and reassure them so that they can fall back to sleep as quickly and naturally as possible. No drinks or snacks, no playing or socializing, no diaper changes unless absolutely necessary. With some persistence you should be able to shift your children’s sleep patterns toward a full night.
Having said that, I’ll take this opportunity to confess that my 7mo, who shocked me and the rest of the world by consistently sleeping through the night from the age of 3 days, no longer does so with any measure of consistency. You can stop hating me now. It really was too good to last, just like you were hoping.
I might also add that The Boy occasionally wakes up in my bed. How did he get there?! and how did he know to go to hubby’s side of the bed? He obviously knows that in the middle of the night, I AM THE MONSTER UNDER THE BED! Don’t wake me up unless there’s blood or a whole lot of vomit somewhere. Even then, be afraid.
And while I’m on a roll, you might as well know that 4yo Rachael just fell asleep in my bed. In our defense, Rachael dozed off waiting to say goodnight to her daddy before she went to bed. I just carried her back to her own bed, where I expect her to stay.
So take the advice for what it’s worth. All in all, our children have been spectacular sleepers in spite of the small houses we’ve always lived in. But consistency isn’t the same as perfection; even children that sleep all night consistently don’t do it perfectly.