Memorial Day, maybe?

I think I’ve mentioned before that I tend to go into labor when I feel safe and relaxed – when all my ducks are in a row.

I know this is a very common phenomenon.  My various midwives over the years have agreed, and that has been my mom’s experience too.  Most of us simply don’t go into labor when we have too much hanging over us.  House guests, outside obligations, stress and fear, ovarian guilt…all seem to contribute to procrastination when it comes to labor and delivery.

When this weekend began, we still had 7 of our 8 Golden Retriever pups for sale.  I had really been hoping to sell more of them before the baby arrived.  We also had 2 social engagements for today, and one more invitation that we had to decline.

This morning, we said goodbye to 3 pups and we have received deposits on 2 more.  That leaves us with just 2 pups to sell!  Can you hear my huge sigh of relief?

After selling puppies all morning, we spent the afternoon with my extended family, and the evening catching up with friends from 20 years ago.  Our guests just left, and the house is nearly quiet.  I was looking forward to both events, but am also breathing another sigh of relief because my calendar is now cleared for the foreseeable future.

This was it.  I have nothing else but church and a tentative prenatal checkup a week from Monday – and that appointment is so tentative that we didn’t even choose a time.  My midwife and I really expect to see each other before then.

My whole point is…I’m holding out hope for a Memorial Day baby.  I really expect (or did expect) to wait until next weekend, but Monday is looking better and better.  My ducks are in a row.  My breathing is calm and relaxed.  There are far less puppies pooping on my deck, where I intend to give birth.   My false labor is picking up and slowly, gradually becoming more consistent.  If I don’t allow myself to get too tied up in the date and create a false sense of tension, I feel like it could happen that soon.

Then again, maybe it’s wishful thinking.  Maybe I will wait until next weekend and our pattern will be ruined.  That’s OK too.  No stress.  I’m relaxed.  I’m cool.


  1. I went into labour on my due date and my first baby (and only so far) was born at 3.33am the next day.
    Anyway, i remember calling to cancel an antenatal appointment (which would have been a 41 1/2 check up and possible cervical sweep) and they asked me why. I said “because she’s here already!”

    Hoping that similar will be the case for you, although of course it’s slightly different as I went into hospital for my appointments and birth, and you’re doing it at home.

  2. I hope it dosen’t storm-The last thing you need is to be giving birth in a pool filled with water while it’s lighting!

  3. I don’t think you sound desperate enough to have the baby just yet. Relaxed isn’t quite enough in my experience. I have to be at the point where I just have to have the baby or else. But somehow when that time comes, I find that I’m always still very surprised and awed that the time has finally come.
    I will pray for you right now to have lots of patience waiting for the baby. A watched pot never boils though,right? 🙂
    I think it’s very cool to have an outdoor birth. I’d do it in a heartbeat if I didn’t have such close neighbors. What perfect outdoor whether to have a baby!
    Blessings on your birth, Kim!

    • Freida,
      I suspect you’re right. I’m trying hard not to get my heart set on the date because I feel entirely too content with my current state of pregnancy, and I’ve never gone into labor in that state.
      On the other hand, I’ve had somewhat strong contractions about every 20-30 minutes nearly all day. I’m very curious to see what happens once everyone is in bed…

  4. Yay! I guessed Memorial Day! 🙂 I was wondering if you were going to deliver on the deck again. I remember you did that last time, and made a joke about your neighbors hearing! Praying for your delivery!

    • Jennifer,
      I’m planning to deliver in a birth pool on the deck again. For those who don’t know, our deck is high and our house is on 5 acres, set far back from the gravel road so it’s a very private setting. No chance of the neighbors seeing, though I’m afraid sound carries rather well here in the hill country.

  5. I woke up at 4am to feed my little one and I thought of you. I prayed for you while I was awake. I know you were planning to live blog so i will assume that you body is just preparing right now.

    This post rang true for me this past labor and delivery. I had 2 things that I REALLY wanted to accomplish – meeting Facebook friends that were coming into town the Arlington Book Fair AND getting to the book fair to purchase a few books. I started my real labor that Friday night after it was all said and done.

    I am praying for you.

  6. Heather Q says:

    I totally understand about needing everything to be in order. 🙂 Praying for your labor and birth to come in God’s perfect timing.

  7. Very excited and praying for you! My sister-in-law was due on the 28th and had a boy on the 29th, baby number 11 (and the first boy after 5 girls, daddy is happy). God bless. (Did I hear you say you’re delivering on the deck? Wow, no wonder you wanted something modest to wear!)

  8. Oh!!! I’m so excited for you! Even if tomorrow isn’t the day, it’s so close! Isn’t it strange how our lives tie into so many that we have never even met?
    I can’t wait to read the news!

  9. I hope you do have your Baby by he end of Monday if not before.Your Blog Friends can`t wait to see pictures of the New Bunddel of Joy. Relax & take it easy.
    Thats really good news on the dogs, the less you need to stree about the better.

  10. Kathryn says:

    I will think happy labor thoughts for you, and “Memorial Day, Memorial Day, Memorial Day!”

  11. Lisa in ND says:

    I was thinking of you this morning — I’ll be a ittle surprised of you DON’T go into labor by the end of tomorrow. Good news on the puppies!

  12. that is cool that you have a pattern!!! Praying that baby comes soon 🙂

  13. Now put your feet up and have your Blender Meister make you one of your frappucinos. I tried that recipe that you gave us and it is absolutely delicious!
    We have also enjoyed your hot chocolate mix, by the way.

    I feel like I’m the only one still up with you out here in Blog Land.

    Aren’t golden retriever puppies adorable. Congratulations for selling so many today.

    Incidently, my baby arrival time guess was yesterday. You can have the baby any time now since my guess has passed.

    So glad you are more prepared, relaxed and ready. I can’t wait to hear of the safe arrival of your adorable girl, Gwendolyn Grace.

    Best wishes, Kim. Good night, unless there is anything else you want to talk about while we’re still up….

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