A woman’s place is in the home

Well, not exactly.

I may not agree with him on everything, but I usually like what Doug Wilson has to say, and I really enjoy how he says it.  I’ll even confess to enjoying his sarcastic sense of humor.  This time is no exception.  Is it bad that I was laughing at his feminist joke even before I heard the punchline?


  1. Jamie,
    It might be your computer – maybe your security settings are locking out that type of file, or you lack a necessary plugin to play that particular type of video.

  2. Thank you, Kim. Obviously I am not meant to see this, hear this, or comment on this. (Sort of like those monkeys) I went to the website and still get a white space where the video is meant to be. Guess I’ll sit this one out.

  3. Alanna N. says:

    I agreed with most of what he said except, that mom should be teaching at the Christian school. Starting at the root, I think that mothers should be teaching their children in the home (Deut 6:7). Just a thought.

    • Alanna,

      When I said that I don’t always agree with everything he says, the issue of Christian schools over homeschooling was one that came to mind. While Doug Wilson thinks Christian schools are best, I think they are a distant second to home-based education. Of course if a mother is teaching her children at home, it wouldn’t make much sense for her to be teaching with her husband at a Christian school.

      Good catch, Alanna. I didn’t bring this up because Mr. Wilson didn’t really go into it in the video, but there are certainly hints.

  4. I enjoyed the video. I come from a working Mother home, and always wished my Mom was home with us. She was single for some time and had no choice. I love her for all she did for my sister and I, but I am SOO grateful to have the priviledge of being home w/ our children.

  5. That is an excellent explanation! He is absolutely correct… we can try to draw hedges around the issues (ie. “working outside the home is OUR OWN decision so don’t judge me”, or “working outside the confines of the house is ALWAYS WRONG”). However, when we approach the issue biblically, we find that we are to be home-oriented. It’s a priority for us to love our husbands, love our children, and be home orientated. There is a lot of variation in how that might play out individually… but our choices absolutely have to reflect our God-given priorities. It’s not one-size-fits-all… it leaves room for variation.

    God has given us LOTS of gifts, we must use them in God-honoring ways… reflecting His standards in our choices. I know this isn’t a perfect analogy, but I can’t help but thinking of the marriage relationship. God has given us a beautiful and lovely gift of “relations” with our spouse within the confines of the marriage relationship. We can choose to honor that gift in the way that He intended us to use it, OR we can take it outside of marriage and squander it away on relationships that are NOT God honoring.

    We do make the choice in our we use our gifts. We are all gifted in the body of Christ in many different ways. We ALL must use them to God’s glory in the way He desires. We must look to the Bible, the inerrant Word of God, to show us His ways.

  6. Jamie,
    The white space should be a video. It loads more slowly than the rest of the page, but if it’s not loading at all you can go here to view it:

  7. Am I missing something…My computer shows the title of the blog, Kim’s short paragraph, about 5″ of white space, and the related posts section. Where’s the video?

  8. faith marandola says:

    Amen! Love his approach, and I agree wholeheartedly! It is always interesting to see what trouble your stirring up each week……I am a happy proverbs 31 wife, I am so glad God blessed me with what I have today, would have never been able to dream up such a life myself!

  9. Melanie says:

    I think what Janie is trying to say is that we need to be careful not to be boastful of our own decisions or judgmental of others. It is one thing to live by example and simply be a light for others to follow, but it is quite another to observe others and tell them what they are doing wrong. No one can claim to no what is in another’s heart and what God has called them to do.

  10. Thanks for posting this. I’m a big fan of Doug Wilson’s teachings/books/sermons.

    I run a clothing label business from home and homeschool. So technically I have a job but I try to make sure that my family is taken care of during the day before I sit down to answer emails or print labels. It’s hard to balance that out but my family suffers if I spend to much time growing the business.

    Love the “not funny” part!

  11. The only problem I have with what was said is that he fails to really drive home the point that a 40+ hours/week job precludes actually being domestic. 🙂 I watched my mom try it because (I’m sorry, Dad), my dad was an unreliable provider and she had to work. Her family suffered for it. She suffered for it. She still does. It breaks my heart to watch.

    No way will I ever believe that a career, (from college to retirement, as envisioned by our worker-bee society) is something a Christian mom can do while also taking care of the home. I have ways of making money, and I do so every chance I get. I could do part-time work, too, provided I get to make my own schedule. But with 4 small kids, I don’t think it’s possible to do a full-time work and still be a keeper at home.

  12. Very interesting! As someone who was raised to be a career woman, I’m surprised how much of this I agree with. Thanks, Kim, for another eye-opener!

  13. Just curious, what part did you disagree with?

    • Missylou,
      I was speaking in a general sense. In this particular video I don’t think I disagreed with anything he said, though I would have to watch it once more to be sure.

  14. Why do people have to put others down to prove their point? I love working, I know my job is what God has called me to do, and I have nothing but respect for other women/mothers and their choices and their callings–whatever those are? Why can’t we just respect each other instead of trying to build ourselves up by putting others down?

    Everyone is different with different gifts, talents, experiences, etc. and there’s not “one size fits all” for everyone. What if we all lived our own lives skillfully and joyfully without claiming that “our way” was the best for everyone?

    • Janie,

      We’re not putting others down. However, I think Mr. Wilson demonstrates that a solid Biblical case can be made that a wife’s role should be home-centered. He doesn’t say that a wife should never, under any circumstances, work outside the home. He mentions that his own wife worked with him at the Christian School he runs.

      But if the Bible teaches that a wife’s role is to be home-centered, working mothers would be hard-pressed to prove that God has called them to a career outside the home and away from the family.

  15. That is a great video, thanks for sharing!
    There is no place like home, and I love being in it 🙂

  16. Thanks for posting this! That’s one of the best explanations I’ve seen.

    Now Kim, “that’s not funny.” ; )

  17. Wait. There was a joke? I watched the whole thing and missed the *joke*. Which part was the joke??

    • Mrs. C,
      The joke is about feminists, and how easy it is to anger them:

      Q. How many feminists does it take to change a light bulb?
      A. That’s not funny!

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