Today, my husband also agreed to let me tell you that when he’s with me, we always spend money.
Well, that hasn’t always been true, and it’s not quite true now. Over the years we have discovered plenty of ways to enjoy each other’s company without spending money.
In-home Date Night
When all the kids were little, we used to have an in-home date night. We would feed the kids a fun & easy dinner like chicken nuggets & fries, then haul the TV and VCR (VCR? What’s that?) into their bedroom and put them to bed early. Then the fun began. We cooked together, talked, sipped drinks, played games, watched a movie of our own after the kids dozed off, and just generally enjoyed each other’s company.
Now that the kids are bigger, we have built-in babysitters who delight to see us leave. Maybe I should install a secret camera to find out why, or maybe I just shouldn’t look a gift horse in the mouth. These dates aren’t technically free since we have to count the cost of gas and whatever it is the kids do when we’re gone, but since we often turn an errand run into a date, we’re not burning extra gas.
A variation on the errand-date is the one in which we leave the kids in the van (keep in mind we have big kids) and go into a store alone together. Does that phrase make you giggle like it does me? As we pull into a parking lot, 3 or 4 of the kids invariably start calling out from the dim recesses of the van, “Can I go in? Can I? Please? PLEASE?” Then we give each other The Look, and one of us answers: “No. We’re going on a date.”
Our family recently took up jogging. It’s not at all uncommon to find the kids far ahead, while Perry lags behind with me. Call me desperate, but I consider this a date. Any time spent alone with my hunney is quality time!
There are a few more obvious options: we have been known to stay up insanely late after the children are in bed, just because we enjoy each other’s company. I know what you’re thinking. No, I’m not just talking about that. Sometimes we sit side by side in the dark living room, sending each other messages on googletalk. Sometimes we watch a late-night movie in bed on a laptop. We might just sit out on the deck and chat til the wee hours. The point is that we don’t have to leave the house to enjoy some private time together.
We have also learned over the years that a co-ed shower in the morning goes a long way. 🙂 In a small house, privacy can be hard to find during daylight hours, but this is one place it’s nearly guaranteed.
See how the other 3 Moms and their respective spouses answer the question:
What’s your secret? How do you and your spouse spend time together without spending money? Besides that, I mean.