Welcome back to the weekly 4 Moms post, in which 4 moms with a collective total of 35 children share our knowledge, experience and and helpful tips in maintaining health, order and sanity.
This week we’re talking about spending one-on-one time with children when you have a whole brood of them. Are the 4 moms all on the same page? Checking with each other ahead of time would be like comparing answers on homework. We’d be homeschool moms caught cheating. Oh, the scandal!
Click over to find out how our answers compare. If you’re an early riser, you might know before we do.
I didn’t consult with the other moms ahead of time, but I did ask my lifeline: hubby. He knew me well enough to know that I often feel guilty about this area. He also knew me well enough to assuage my ovarian guilt. He reassured me that although I don’t always plan for one-on-one time with my children, it happens in the course of our day.
Individual time, aka quality time, comes when I give a reading lesson to the preschooler, when I read a picture book to the toddler, when somebody helps me make my bed, when we cook together, when I help somebody with her hair or get my own hair styled.
Individual time might be when I help an older child with math, when we sit together in my room to read our Bibles, when 2 of us squeeze together in front of the monitor for a secret youtube viewing with the volume down low, or I take somebody on an errand.
It might be a quiet cup of coffee or cocoa with an early riser, a bedtime hug that stretches into a 5 minute review of the day’s highlights, or a middle of the night snuggle before somebody gets sent back to their own bed.
It can even be a short, sweet chat with the toddler while I change her diaper or wash her face.
Individual time, aka quality time, does not have to be over ice cream at the local fast food restaurant, though that certainly qualifies. Much like Bible time, school time, and other important parts of our life, we think individual time can be planned, but often works best when tightly woven into the fabric of our daily lives.
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