Welcome to 4 Moms. It’s Thursday again and the 4 of us are talking about church. Some of you have been wondering what kind of church we attend, and how friendly they are to our personal convictions and large families.
One of Kimberly’s readers asked, “I’m curious about the kind of churches you all attend. We are protestant and can’t seem to find a church that teaches or even accepts our convictions about birth control. Do you all go to churches where there are other large families or do you just accept the differences?”
There are no easy answers to these questions, but I can share our own experience and reasoning.
Our family attends a CRE congregation, where we have been members for about 6 years. It’s an hour drive, and we drive past many other congregations of Christian brothers and sisters on our way. We spend a lot of money on gas and put a lot of miles on our van, but we believe it’s worthwhile to be in fellowship with like-minded believers whenever possible.
That’s not to say we never associate with others who disagree with us – we have friends in our home almost weekly who don’t agree with us or each other on many points of doctrine. Even at our church, not everyone thinks or walks in lock-step agreement on every point. Our large family is welcome there and in good company, though not all the families are large. Homeschoolers are in good company, though not every family in our group homeschools.
We chose to worship with this congregation because we are likeminded on the issues that are most important to us and while it is not insignificant, our position on birth control is not what we consider a core issue. Nor are homeschooling, large families, skirt-wearing, or other such outward signs of inward convictions…Instead, they seem to flow out of other issues.
Families worship as families in our church, and Sunday school is age-integrated. This is important to us, so we are thankful to worship with Christian brothers and sisters who agree. Our church baptizes infants of believing parents, welcoming them as communing members. This, too, is a priority to us.
There have been times when we didn’t know of any like-minded congregations within driving distance. In these cases, we worship with the Christian brothers and sisters around us as we are able, trusting that our worship is pleasing to God and seeking encouraging fellowship where we can find it – in the company of local Christian brethren, online, in visits to long-distance family and friends, etc.
The other moms are talking about it too:
Upcoming topics for June:
- June 9 –
- June 16 – Homeschooling the challenging child
- June 23 – Q&A
- June 30 –