For a fun change in the 4 Moms Q&A posts, I’m going to start putting together a lighthearted list of the questions I have received over the years – most of them many, many times – along with the answers I give…or the answers I wish I had thought to give at the time…or the answers I plan to give from now on.
These are not meant to be complete and comprehensive answers, but are the sort I offer to someone I’ve just met or a stranger making conversation in line at the grocery store. I consider many of the answers a sort of “bait,” and am thrilled if my questioner takes the bait so we can delve deeper into a subject.
Are they all yours?
[Looking around carefully] Yes, I think so. Wait – that one’s not mine. But the rest are mine, and so are those three over there. Yes, it really happens, especially in our new neighborhood. Sometimes I check on my kids while they are playing outside and find extras that I may or may not recognize.
How many kids do you have?!
Ten – no, eleven, I think. We’re just going on memory these day… they never stand still long enough for us to count them…
Do you work?
[long pause, as I alternately eye my questioner and my children]
Why do you have so many kids? Are you Catholic or Mormon, or crazy?
No, we’re just Christians, and the Bible teaches that children are a blessing, so we are happy to have them.
Don’t you know what causes that?
Don’t you believe in birth control?
You need a TV in your bedroom!
Why? [awkward pause]
How many more are you going to have?
As many as God gives us.
So you’re trying to have as many kids as you can?
No, we just think God knows better than we do how many kids we should have.
So you think I should have as many kids as I can?
How many do you think you should have? Why?
Your turn: How would you answer these questions? What questions do you hear over and over?
See what questions the other Moms are answering: