Laura wants to know,
Any methods for how much clothing you allow per child? Does it vary by gender/age? [I have] 4 kids, one boy that is five, three girls, ages 3, 19 months, and 4 months.
I wish I was that organized, because it would sure simplify our lives! Much depends on how well you do at keeping up with laundry. If you are right on top of things, you can make do with very few outfits. The bedroom floor will be clean, the laundry room will be room, and your budget will be happy – until the washer breaks and laundry reaches Red Alert levels in 48 hours because that’s all the clothes your kids have. Sometimes it’s nice to have two week’s worth of clothes in everyone’s closets – but not on the laundry room floor. That’s not nice at all.
I do know that boys need more clothes than girls because apparently they consume them. Socks, underwear, and whole outfits mysteriously disappear – or just turn up with big holes, like somebody got hungry and took a bite out of them. For your 5yo boy, just plan on buying new socks and pants every 6 weeks.
Oh, and be suspicious if you never see his underwear in the laundry. I’ve explained how things work in civilized nations, but he just doesn’t believe me. An underwear quote from my own boy: “Mom, should I just these back in the drawer since I only wore them two days?” Another quote: “Parker! Don’t put those in the laundry! You just put them on yesterday!”
In our house, younger ones need more clothes than older ones because they stain them more often. There is a solution: If we were better with bibs, we’d be better with clothes too.
In my experience, very little ones don’t need many clothes at all. If your diapers are doing their job, there shouldn’t be many stains from one end, and breastfeeding babies don’t generate a lot of stains from the other end. Besides, my summer babies just live in onesies at home, and winter babies live in pj’s. Like little rednecks, they only get fully dressed when they go to church.
How much silliness do you allow from a kindergartner at school time? Things like intentionally answering incorrectly to be funny? I’m not sure if it is her that needs to be more disciplined or me needing to be more patient… Or some of both.
I think this is largely a matter of personal opinion and toleration. How much silliness are you willing to tolerate? When does it become disruptive and counterproductive? Does your daughter understand that there is a time and a place for silliness, or does this silliness feed into other areas?
We do a lot of laughing in our house, but when I feel that silliness is turning into foolishness or idleness, that’s when I put an end to it. If we can laugh while we learn, why not? But if we’re just wasting our time on nonsense, it’s time to redirect. If our children start acting silly during church, it may be time to set firmer boundaries. But if it’s working, then you and your little girl are making good memories together while she learns.
Your turn: How would you answer the questions above?