4 Moms on drama, space, and Bible translations

4moms35kids 4 Moms Q&AKristine asked,

What to do about a 3 yo child who wails and screams with minor injuries (like falling down onto his hands while running…no blood or scrapes)? Everything sounds like an emergency.  At this point, I respond to everything calmly and briefly, almost dismissively, but I do need to find a way to curb his response. I want to be able to tell when I really should be running to help him. Anyone have any previous posts, experience, or wisdom to contribute? Thank you!

Kristine,

I respond much like you describe, with one addition: if the injury is minor, I admonish him not to overreact.  For a 3yo, I might say,

“No, this isn’t a reason to cry.  Hush.  I see a tiny spot of blood color but there’s no blood coming out.  You’re ok.  Go play.”

Once he gets a little older, I would use a firmer voice and be more blunt about it:

“You need to control yourself.  This does not hurt badly enough for you to cry.”

I might even add,

“You’re acting like you are very badly hurt, but that’s not true.  That’s like lying.”

If I can tell that it’s not serious, I also make a point of correcting the behavior before I closely inspect the injury.  “No, first stop crying so you can tell me what happened.  I’m sorry; I can’t understand you when you’re crying.”

Terresa asked,

Perhaps you ladies have addressed this before… We are a family of almost 8 living in a 1200 sq ft, 3 bedroom home… one for Mom & Dad, one for girls, and one for boys. We have no playroom for toy storage… HOW do we store toys/games in way that easy to keep organized and is difficult for kids to pull out and dump ALL over the bedroom??? We’ve already culled the toys several times and we are careful about what does come into the home…

We were a family of 9 in a house exactly that size…then 10…then 11…then 12.  With so many people in the bedrooms, we thought it best to keep toys of there.  Instead, we opted to keep our small collection of toys in a corner of the living area.  We sometimes rotated toys, putting whole groups of toys into storage for a while, then swapping them out to make everything new and exciting.

Games were kept in a cabinet, off limits to anyone too little to clean up his own mess.

It was not a perfect system, but I think it worked well as long as we worked on it.  The instant we stopped paying attention, it was a huge mess.  The nice thing about small houses is that while they can be utterly trashed in the blink of an eye, they are also quick to clean up. :)

Gencie asked,

What Bible translation do you use: For personal reading, for study, for reading to the kids?

Our church uses the ESV so we sometimes use that, especially when we’re doing church related reading or study.

 I’m also really fond of reading the Psalms and other poetic passages in the old King James.

But for most uses, we prefer the NKJ because it reads so much better.  It retains much of the poetic rhythm of the old King James version, but is just a little easier to understand. I especially like it for reading aloud because it sounds so much better than more modern translations.  I think the formal language helps to remind us that we are reading holy words, while the slightly updated wording makes it easy enough for most people to comprehend.

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Comments

  1. Terresa, I feel your pain! We currently have a family of six in a tiny one-bedroom duplex. And I mean TINY. No washer/dryer, no dining room, one tiny closet. Everyone sleeps in the bedroom. We keep most of our toys in a corner of the living room. I hung up a toy net for stuffed animals, we have the bottom two shelves of a bookcase for books/puzzles and small bins of cooking toys or doll clothes. Then one basket underneath the toy net for miscellaneous cars, plastic animals, etc. Some of the toys end up in the kids’ beds, like personal stuffed animals and recent gifts that are particularly special. It works (because it has to!) but we also really have to stay on top of cleaning up because otherwise the whole house looks like a disaster zone.

  2. For Kristine,

    My kiddo doesn’t overreact with injuries, but he does exaggerate with other minor things, and for those I do swap him in the leg when I admonish him (in a calm way) to stop whining. I’ve done that consistently with diaper changes (he hates being put down flat on the bed) and it worked within days. That bit of pain helps drive home the training.

  3. We had 6 children in an 1100 sq ft house, and I kept all the toys in the living room in different chests that we also used for sitting on as benches. Also, we put the games on the top shelves in the bedroom closets. Our living room was the biggest room in the house….bedrooms were really too small to play in. I remind the children to pick up before getting into a different game/play. Now, we live in an over 2500 sq ft house, and though they keep their toys in their bedrooms, they still bring their toys to the living room to play and then take them back up when they’re done. It was a great benefit living in a small house because they learned to pick up and be organized, and now even the four year old doesn’t complain at all when I tell him it’s time to pick up.

  4. I appreciated your words about Bible translations. I agree that the words should sound different, but I never would have thought to use the words “holy”. You are exactly right and that is why so many of the more modern translations really bug me.

  5. Hi Kim
    I am so enjoying having you back – though I understand completely about wanting to just BE with your husband and children more and not just be busy busy busy. I so relate. Anyway, just to say THANKS! Its good to have you back!

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