Patrick Calvin

Patrick Calvin Coghlan was born 7:02 pm he weighs 9 pounds 4 ounces and measures 22 inches long.

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Kim is resting and will post the details later ;-)

Live Streaming of the Food Conference! (and Kim is speaking on Saturday!)

Good morning!

 

This is Perry jotting off a quick post to let you know about the live streaming of the Food Conference! This is the first time that Vision Forum has had a live stream of any of our conferences and it’s available for the modest price of only $35.00!

While this is exciting, it’s not the most exciting part of the announcement. I did not realize until about 30 minutes ago that my lovely wife KimC. who will be on the panel discussion about Frugality and Healthy eating, will be part of the live stream feed.  So not only do you get to watch live lectures by Joel Salatin, Doug and Beall Phillips, and Michelle Duggar but you will be able to catch Kim and she and several other ladies share what they have learned about “Frugality and Health: Resolving the Tension Between Feeding Your Family a High-Quality Diet While Staying Within the Constraints of a Tight Budget ” all for about 35 dollars

For more information you can click on the image above or visit http://www.visionforumministries.org/events/food/004/ to find out how to sign up!

PS. Kim is out this morning enjoying the Ladies Tea so don’t judge the typos too harshly (I didn’t have an editor!)

PPS. If you don’t have time to watch the lectures this weekend they will be available in an archive until the end of the month so you can watch them when you get time.

 

4 Moms: Large Family Logistics linky, part 1

4 Moms 35 Kids answer questions about big families

This week we begin our 4 week long blog-through of Kim Brenneman’s book, Large Family Logistics: The Art and Science of Managing the Large Family.  If you don’t already own a copy, the promo code 4MOMS will get you a 40% discount through midnight tonight (August 4).

In a peculiarly appropriate display of why I need this book, I spent this morning reading through the first 125 pages so that I could write this post.  I should also mention that one of my own daughters bought the book for me.  In her defense (and my own), she knew that I was interested in the title and also bought me several other books at the same time.  Nonetheless, I confess that I can learn much from this book.

My own notes on Part 1, which consists of the first 17 chapters:

This portion of the book deals with mom’s attitude, heart issues, goals, definitions, and nearly everything but the day-to-day nitty gritty of how to get things done.  It very nearly could be a book in itself, and even though the author and I have roughly the same number of children I picked up plenty of new ideas and was reminded of some very good concepts that have gone by the wayside in our own household.

Every chapter has an important focus, of course, but these are the ones that made me stop and take note for the benefit of our own home:

1. The Wise Woman

A blow-by-blow breakdown of the legendary Proverbs 31 wife, and how her skills translate to us today.  God gave us a checklist, and we need to refer to it regularly.  With a little creativity and allowance for changes in technology, all of the qualities mentioned can be applied today just as well as they could 3,000 years ago.

2. Goals

Here I was reminded that if we aim at nothing, we hit it every time.  We need to know exactly what we want to accomplish and why.  This includes projects, but also should encompass other aspects of household management: hospitality (how much and how often?), meal planning, daily routines and scheduling, housekeeping, homeschooling.

When it comes to projects, we have many in the works in our house at any given time, but our list of finished projects is much shorter than I’d like to admit.  Not only do I need to keep the list in front of me and the children, I need to make sure Perry and I are on the same page about which items belong at the top of the list. Kim also reminds us that our husbands will want to dictate all the details of certain goals, while delegating the specifics of other goals to us.  Both are equally valid ways for our men to exercise their own role as head of household and we need to work graciously and self-consciously in both cases.

5. Attitude is Critical

This chapter addresses a variety of attitude issues on the parts of all family members, but the one that caught my attention is “I can’t.”  Rather than “I can’t,” her children are taught to say, “I’ll do my best.”  They learn that “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”  (Ph. 4:13)

Like the author, we don’t allow those words in our house, and we teach our children the same verse in Philippians.  She mentioned, however, that a friend overwhelmed with little ones once asked if she ever felt that way and the immediate response was a resounding “no.”

I received a very similar question just yesterday and my answer was a little different, though we both end up at the same place: I tell overwhelmed mothers that if you ever feel like you can do it all yourself, you’re about to get humbled by God.  As Kim says later in chapter 12, “…children are a blessing that drives us to Christ because we are incapable of parenting well without Him…”  Alone, you most certainly can’t. With Christ, you can do all things.

9. Give Your Children a Work Ethic

I love Kim’s tips on teaching children to work (“Feed the dog and empty the trash?  Scrape the hog floor didn’t make the list?”), but I also had a good giggle about her suggestion to have little ones carry folded laundry in a dishpan.  The Headmistress mentioned a multitude of uses for dishpans in her post on Frugal Hacks last week and a commentor asked who actually puts books in a dishpan.  Apparently it’s a big family/homeschooler thing.  I need to get more dishpans!

I also completely agree when she exhorts mothers to teach the older children well, because the older ones will help teach the younger ones attitude, character traits, and chores.  There is a trickle-down effect with children, so make sure you’re not polluting the waters upstream!

I have heard it said that “children should not be required to work because they will be working the rest of their lives”; that “childhood is the one time in life that they can just play and be children.”  If you embrace this perspective, you will set your children up for failure.  If children aren’t taught to work when they are young, then they will find it hard to work the rest of their life…

This chapter also contains a list of verses from Proverbs that deal with work.  I like Kim’s suggestion to write these on index cards and post them throughout the house.

10. Repeating Yourself?

We moms are busy people.  We’re great at multi-tasking.  But child discipline isn’t something that can be multi-tasked.  We need to stop and focus.  We need to train ourselves to hear ourselves.  It’s hard – no doubt about it.  But repeating ourselves is training our children to continue in disobedience.

11. Teaching a New Chore

I have written out the detailed steps to chores on a full piece of paper, inserted it in a page protector and hung it on the wall in the appropriate room, but wasn’t really happy with how it worked for us.  The page was so big I wanted to put it away when guests came over, and the instructions were so detailed that I found the ones who needed them most were a little overwhelmed.  I plan to use Kim’s suggestion to use index cards instead, taped near the job site.

17. Dress for Success

Among other things, this chapter has a long list of what works in clothes for a busy and what doesn’t.  I learned most of these lessons the hard way over the years, so young moms would do well to look the list over before the toddler yanks your wrap-around skirt wide open in the middle of the WalMart parking lot.

I was intrigued by Kim’s suggestion that moms might want to consider having an outfit (or 2 or 3) for each particular day of the week – Office Day, Kitchen Day, Town Day, etc.  Like a weekly menu, this would save time and ensure that choices are appropriate to the task at hand.  I’m not saying I’ll do it, but I’m not saying I won’t.  What do you think of the idea?

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    Win an iPad? No really, I promise.

    Some really good friends of mine are running a drawing for an iPad as part of their fund raising efforts on a unique and intriguing project.

    The project is called “Jimmy Valiant: Scions of Danger” you can read about the giveaway here and you can watch a short movie on the project here.

    Give it a looksee and consider helping them fund their project. Who knows, you might get drawn for that iPad!

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    Happy Birthday Beloved!

    Happy Birthday to the prettiest girl in the world. (and a darn good blogger too)

    Happy Birthday!

    Happy Birthday Kim

    She's mine!

    Very well said.

    • Posted by Perry:

    Kim is one her way back home today so I thought I’d throw out a quick post.

    Do you remember “Ask the kids: Do you want a big family?” ? Well one of our oldest internet friends Valerie put the same questions to her children., in a post titled “Why So Many” and I really appreciated her answer at the end of the post:

    The Mommy
    Our lives have been very hard in some ways, especially over the last 8 years, but I love having a big family, and I look forward to having many grandchildren, if God pleases.

    I wholeheartedly believe the Bible truth that my children are a blessing tome, but far more compelling is the fact that they are a blessing to God. Each of them was especially created for His glory, for His honor, for His praise, for Jesus must forever be praised by millions upon millions of the saints of all the ages.

    I like MORE, because Christ is worthy of MORE praise and because joyful fruitfulness in marriage tells a very important truth about the relationship between Christ and His church, especially when it occurs in the midst of difficulty.

    She and I used to be on a discussion list many years ago and her uncompromising stand against birthcontrol is one of the things that changed my thinking once and for all about the issue.  If not for Valerie I might not have met 5 or 6 of my children. Praise God for faithful withnesses!

    Well said Valerie and thanks!

    Beautiful and Wise

    posted by Perry C.

    Kim at the conference

    Photo courtesy of Carmon and Anna Friedrich @ Buried Treasure Books.

    Stay tuned for more!

    IT’s a BOY!!!!

    Why didn’t I think of that?

    Dad: Boy, what’s on your shirt?

    Perryboy: that’s my gum

    Dad: why is your gum on your shirt?

    Perryboy: I put it there

    Dad: Why did you put it there?

    Perryboy: It kept falling out of my mouth!

    The Real Lincoln

    Just in time for the birthday of the great usurper, Jasime Baucham who blogs @ joyfullyathomeblog.com has given us a look at the facts surrounding Abraham Lincoln’s Presidency. Just a quote from the article:

    Abraham Lincoln’s heroism is great exaggerated in modern circles. His own words prove that he was not a proponent of emancipation, he did not believe in racial equality, and his Emancipation Proclamation did not emancipate a single slave…
    read the rest of the article here