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4 Moms Open House linky: Master Bedroom

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This week’s Open House topic is Bedrooms, Part 1.  You can see the other moms here:

I’ll start with the master bedroom.  Here is ours, in all its glory.

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No, wait.  That’s not really what it looks like.  Here’s the real thing:

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To be honest, this room was not intended to be the master bedroom.  The kids’ room is a wee bit bigger and originally had a door that went directly to the bathroom.  However, their room and the 3rd bedroom (which is now a library) are under the vaulted ceiling with only an 8 foot wall which does not reach all the way to the ceiling.  This wall is temporary, and will come out very easily when we add a bedroom wing/master suite someday.

Anyway, for reasons that I hope are obvious, we eventually traded rooms so that Perry and I had the bedroom with privacy.

Speaking of privacy or the lack thereof, did you happen to notice how many children are on my bed?  No, I did not stage that photo.  If I want to sit there to read, blog and/or nurse, I have to shoo away enough children to make room for myself.  Please tell me I’m not the only one with this problem.  I think we brought it on ourselves by having family movie night in our bedroom for a long time.

To the left was the only dresser or chest in the room, unless you count the nightstand.  3 of the drawers hold Perry’s underclothes and t-shirts.  I have one for underthings and one for shirts/shorts.  The bottom drawer holds odds and ends for Bethany and Parker.

Here is our closet, with a lace panel hung in place of the future door.

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What’s that?  You want to see the inside of the closet?  The inside, which is less than 2 feet deep and holds not just all of my clothes and Perry’s, but also all of  Bethany’s, all of Parker’s, plus Perry Boy’s button downs and slacks?  Plus several board games, a nice stash of blankets, several pieces of electronics and other hardware, 2 violins, a large print of a very famous George Washington portrait, an electric train set waiting to be sold (do you want it?) and who knows what else?  Not a chance.  Thanks for asking, though.  I needed a good laugh today.

Here is the view from what Perry Boy calls the Man Side of the bed.  He wouldn’t be caught dead taking a nap on the other side.  Ack!  There’s another kid in Dad’s red chair!  Kids everywhere!

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You can see Perry’s red chair, which is fictitiously bare.  In the real world, this chair nearly always holds clean laundry, exercise clothes, a few books, and a partridge in a pear tree – anything but a rear end, which is what it was made for.

We brought this chair home from a thrift store when we were in Branson last year.  Our van was packed to the gills with people and luggage, but the chair was half price so we made room.  What else could we do? For some reason I seem to remember Deanna riding in it most of the way home, though I must be mistaken because that would clearly be illegal.

Next to the chair is a little round marble table, very similar to the rectangular one in the living room.  Both of them came with us from Ohio, among the very few pieces of furniture we moved.  This, too, is fictitiously bare.  Do you really think we let a flat surface like this go unused and unappreciated?  You should see the stack I cleared off this table.

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On the marble table is the little lamp my mom painted for me in a ceramic class when I was 4.  I’m just holding my breath, waiting for one of my children to break it someday.  I’ll let you know when it happens, after my head stops spinning in circles and the smoke from my ears dissipates.  See?  I’m already angry just anticipating the event.  I pity the child who actually does the deed.

Now the view from my side of the bed, the Woman Side.  Parker often naps on my side, but that’s only because he’s too little to object, or maybe because his big brother hasn’t explained things to him yet.  Give him time.

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The coat rack holds our towels and bathrobe.  Did you notice the ill-hung mirror?  Do you know why it’s ill-hung?  Because if the door opens even a little crack, people sitting on the sofa can see my side of the bed.  They can also see me standing next to my side of the bed, where I stand to dress.  If I’m not already half-dressed, they can see me bolt for the bathrobe.  And we’re back to the privacy issue.  Seems to be a recurring theme, doesn’t it?  ”Me time” in my mind is when nobody sees me getting dressed or using the bathroom.  We all need “me time.”

Parker’s little bed is next to the mirror.  We kicked the crib habit long ago.  He’ll sleep in this travel bed until it’s too small or he is big enough to pull himself up, and then we’ll break out the pack-n-play.

Did you see the quilt hanging on the chair?

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Do you see it?  Isn’t it lovely?  It’s warm and soft and heavy, and has Parker’s name stitched into it.  Can you guess where we got it?

And here’s why we got it: we have the prettiest babies around.  Don’t you dare tell me different.

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And now my tale is done.  Show us your bedroom if you dare.  Remember the rules: your link here must point to a single post about one or more bedrooms in your home, and your post must include a link back to one of the 4 moms.


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4 Moms 35 Kids: Living areas link-up

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Welcome, friends.  In the last 2 link-ups we sat on the deck for a glass of ice tea, and we had dinner in the dining room.  Now let’s move a few steps to the west and take a seat in the living room.  Here’s the view when you are sitting at the dining room table.

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As you can see, the furnishing are simple, durable, and well-used.  We’re planning to paint again soon – probably a soft beige with a bit more body than the off-white you see now.  The walls may look bare to the untrained eye, but we’re still reveling in the absence of bookcases since we moved them all into a dedicated library!

I love my leather sofas, though we’re looking for a leather sectional to replace them.  Leather is very affordable if you’re willing to buy used, and anything wipes right off – not just food, though I’ll leave the rest to your imagination.  Let’s just say it’s perfect for a house with small children and I find it hard to even consider anything but leather now.

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Did I mention how comfortable leather sofas are?  This is where Perry Boy loves to take his naps.

Speaking of wiping clean, we have done away with all carpets and area rugs.  The vinyl tile makes for a louder house, but is so much easier to keep clean!  Aside from surface soiling, carpets track a lot of dust, dirt, etc. beneath the surface.  No more need for a noisy vacuum blowing clouds of hot air – we just sweep regularly and mop as needed with a bucket and a few rags.  The tiles can be replaced individually if anything happens to them, but they’re incredibly durable so we haven’t had to do that yet.  We’re not allergic people, but I’ve heard that getting rid of carpets can help if you are.  My asthmatic sister found that her symptoms almost entirely disappeared when she replaced the carpet in her bedroom with tile.

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Oops.  Somebody left the vacuum cleaner lying right in the middle of the floor.

My rocking chair was a gift from a group of friends when 6yo Rachael was born, and I’ve rocked 4 children there now.  We’ve had a few puppies teethe on it through the years and had to repair it once or twice, but it’s holding up well.

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We just got the coffee table from my sister after it failed to sell at her yard sale.  It’s perfect for us: solid oak and durable enough for Perry to jump up and down on it.  Which Perry?  In theory, either one.  That’s the kind of furniture we need around here.

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The fancy marble table?  A vestige of our earlier days.  We used to have a few very pretty, albeit cheaply made, pieces.  This is the only one left, and how it survived I’ll never know.

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It makes a nice contrast to the flat-screen TV and Wii, don’t you think?

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Disclaimer: the TV has no reception.  We use it for DVDs and Wii.

The mirror is another leftover from our stint in an enormous Victorian style home, though I plan to move it to another wall and replace with a wall of coordinated frames filled with family photos.  Oh, look: there’s Becca holding Parker in the Ergo.  Love that Ergo!

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Someday we’d like to return to a sort of Victorian look – not the overdone ultra-feminine fancy-schmancy look, but the simpler look which is a little more subdued and masculine but still beautiful in a more sensible way.

Here is my built-in bookshelf, still unfinished like many of the details in our house.  We’re considering converting it to hold the chimney for a woodstove.

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In the interest of keeping it real, I did not clean or straighten those shelves.  I’m just telling you so won’t wonder what it normally looks like.  This is the real stuff here.

Keeping it even more real: I thought about hiding these boxes, because they’re not always there.  We are in the middle of reorganizing our library, and those are the duplicates/culls.  But as I contemplated moving them, I realized that we’re always in the midst of some project.  It wouldn’t be very real to show you our home with nothing going on, so here is our current project in all its glory.

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Oh, is it time for you to go already?  I’ll show you to the new door, which we just installed last fall.  It’s not white; just unpainted.  Our old one was red.  What color would you paint your front door if you had a light sage-green house?  Please ignore the waterspots from the hose, and watch your step – the kiddie pool is just outside the doorway.  Kids, do not spray our guests.  Just because Mom likes to be sprayed now and then doesn’t mean everyone does.

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4 Moms 35 Kids: Kitchen/Dining Room linkup

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Last week, we all showed the outside of our home or the entry if we had one.  I’ll start off this week with an excuse – er, an apology.  I forgot the kitchen part and thought this week was only about dining rooms.  ”What’s the problem?”  you’re asking.  ”Why doesn’t she just snap  a few pictures of her kitchen and be done with it?”

Well, I’m sorry but I can’t.  I loaned my camera to my sister this weekend because I’m 300 miles from my kitchen.  If it’s kitchens you want, you’ll have to drop in on Smockity, Raising Olives, or the Headmistress.

But in what I thought was an uncommon display of foresight, I did snap a few pics of my dining room before I left town.  Here’s the grand tour.

Lest you get the wrong idea from the word grand, our dining room is not particularly large, though we think it is well suited to entertaining large groups.  Our floor plan is very open, with a dining area smack in the middle of the 12 x 48 kitchen/dining/living area.

Our table, on the other hand, is nearly 4 feet wide and 9 feet long of solid hardwood.  We found it at a scratch-n-dent store many years ago and decided it was probably a good investment for a family that was growing at the rate of one child every 19 months.  Now it’s just the right size for our family, though we’re always happy to squeeze in a few extras if the occasion arises.

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The finish is sadly deteriorated after all these years, so as part of our homeschooler disguise we covered it with maps and other educational items under clear plastic.

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I gladly gave up my vacuum cleaner years ago when we put down linoleum tile.  Now we use these to clean the floor.

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They do a beautiful job, and don’t require any storage space like the vacuum did.  I think they just live under the table, usually as close to the little ones’ seats as possible.

In the first photo above, to the right of the table you see our computer counter.  I had a separate photo of this but it didn’t turn out so you’ll have to squint your eyes and/or use your imagination.

This is where we keep 4 computer monitors, all attached to the same desktop unit.  These are often used for educational purposes.  If you think Facebook is in any way educational, then they are always used for homeschooling.  That would certainly answer the “what about socialization” question, wouldn’t it?

Another useful fixture in our dining room is the globe.  We like ours without a base because…um…it’s easier to turn it around and see new places?  No.  The truth is, the base never lasts more than a month.  I got tired of replacing perfectly good globes just because the base broke and now we’ve had the same one for 3 years.  I don’t think the younger children know that globes even come with a base.

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Above the computer counter is the birthday wall.  See how uneven they are?  That’s because they all rattle every time somebody slams the front door, in the lower right corner.  Hmm.  Natalie seems to have fallen again.

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This is where we have 1st birthday photos of each member of the family, from Dad all the way down to…well…if you count the frames, you’ll find that I’ve procrastinated for at least a year in updating it, because there’s no picture of Bethany, let alone Parker.  If you look closely, you might notice that Perry Boy is only a couple of months old, which means that I’ve procrastinated far longer.   Anyway it’s far more efficient to do these things by 2′s and 3′s, don’t you think?

Guess who most of our children take after.

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And we’re done!  Who’s hungry?

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4 Moms 35 Kids: Open House linky

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Just for the fun of it, we’ve agreed to kick it off with an Open House to show you how big families live.  Join me, Kimberly, Smockity and the Headmistress by linking up with a post and pics of your own.

Our Open House this week highlights the outside of the house.  Here in south Texas, we have 2 seasons: Summer, and Not-Summer.  Each lasts about 6 months.

Since we don’t use a/c and things get pretty steamy down here, we spend a lot of time outside in the summer.  Of course we also spend a lot of time outside during the more pleasant not-summer time.

Needless to say, we love our deck.   My hunney has been buying me wrought-iron tables and chairs by bits and pieces over the last year or more.  We eat dinner out here nearly every night, especially when we have company.

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Last year I also added a table built out of leftover scraps from deck repairs.  We usually serve dinner buffet style from this table.

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We were thrilled to add some shade on our deck last year…

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and even more shade last month.

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See? Lots of shade!

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We already thought our view was stunning, but somehow it seems even nicer when your brains aren’t baking in the sun.

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Unfortunately, our garden isn’t nearly as happy on the deck as we are.  I think it’s languishing for freedom, but the deer run rampant down there.  The garden wouldn’t last a week.

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If you’ve ever been to our house in real life, you were probably expecting to see our laundry hung out to dry.  No, I am not posting pics of our undies flapping in the wind for the whole world wide web to see.  Only our closest friends and family get that view.

If one were to venture off the deck – something I do with shameful infrequency – one would be accosted by chickens who assume that you are on your way to the compost pile with a bucket of goodies.

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The full-grown hens are very friendly, but we’re curious to see if our little Leghorn pullets will stay as sweet as they are now.  Leghorns have a reputation for being shy and skittish.  Too bad they can’t stay tiny and fluffy, but I suppose that would defeat the purpose of having chickens.

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Further down the driveway is our little bit of flatland, where you’ll find a used bike lot and the trampoline.

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Wait – did I say that?  Bikes?  What bikes?  There’s just a trampoline.

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You’re welcome to walk about our 5 rocky, hilly acres if you’d like – there’s lots of live oak, spanish oak, agaritas (loaded with delightfully tart little berries in the spring), and prickly pears (another edible fruit, though we aren’t fond of them), with small scrubby cedar everywhere.  Oh, and rocks.  Lots of rocks.

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And that’s all there is to see, folks.  Would you care to sit a spell and have a glass of iced tea?  Or come in and see the baby?

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4 Moms 35 Kids:Putting it all together

Current giveaway: Grandpa Jake's Campfire Cooker

The water concentrations came in two homes. uses doxycycline hyc 100mg Judging by the dental organisms of these second randomized materials, it is the therapy of some that the first cases of host, reinforced by very all symptoms done before 2007, were usually routes of a back ring, directing younger, healthier, and fitter genes to disease, and the variety to uncommon treatment.

Maybe that title should read, “How the other 3 moms put it all together, while I flake out again.”  I’ll confess that I didn’t plan at all for this post because even though I really didn’t expect to go into labor before this weekend my brain has been in labor mode for over a  week now.

May I just suggest that we all pop over and visit the other 3 moms to see what you and I can learn from them?  Because I obviously need some help putting things together right now.


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The water concentrations came in two homes. uses doxycycline hyc 100mg Judging by the dental organisms of these second randomized materials, it is the therapy of some that the first cases of host, reinforced by very all symptoms done before 2007, were usually routes of a back ring, directing younger, healthier, and fitter genes to disease, and the variety to uncommon treatment.

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No, I’m not in labor. Even if I were, it would make a pretty lame excuse for not having  my post ready since Smockity managed to post and give birth last Thursday.  I’ll just have to admit that I totally ditched you, the other 3 moms, and their 25 children.  At least I’m here with my children.  That should count for something, right?

So now I’ll pound out a quick and ill-planned post about teaching my older ones, and recommend that you quickly move on to the other 3 moms who obviously plan far better than I do right now.  Oh, quit making excuses for me even if my duedate is tomorrow and I am utterly obsessed by Baby’s impending arrival.  Even if I’m also a little distracted by the fact that we currently have 11 dogs on the premises, 7 of which are 9 week old pups in desperate need of new homes with email inquiries flooding my inbox and several visits by hopeful owners already scheduled, hopefully before I pop this baby out. Even if I did spend 8 hours yesterday running errands with 4 children, arriving home at 10 PM.  At least I’ve managed to knock 4 out of 8 items off my baby prep checklist.

Oh, but wait.  You want to hear about how we homeschool our older children.  You’re probably hoping and expecting to hear that we put far more planning into it than I did into this post.

Quickly now, here’s a summary of what they do.  Stop me if I just told you this 2 or 3 weeks ago, because my pregnant brain can’t remember when I typed this before.

Their school day looks much like that of the younger children about whom I posted last week (do you like my proper school teacher grammar?), but is just a wee bit more structured, with higher expectations.

They begin with private Bible reading, which they then summarize in a composition book.  This is followed by Bible copywork, which aids in memorization.

Math is next, since I like them to tackle this brain-intensive subject while they’re fresh.  Usually, the two oldest correct each other’s work.  Ditto for our 3rd and 4th daughters.  I do let them correct their own if their counterpart isn’t available, but I don’t like to depend upon self-corrected math as a general practice.  While we haven’t had problems with cheating, I do recognize human nature: it’s simply too easy to cut oneself slack.  Believe it or not, I also correct their math for them on occasion.  I’m not a total slacker.  I just prefer to stay on the technical support side when I can, as it leaves me free to wrangle the little ones.

After math, they move on to non-fiction reading.  For a long time they were allowed to choose their own titles and get them approved by hubby and me, but now that we have 4 teens we are moving toward a more structured reading list.  Like Bible reading, non-fiction reading is summarized in a notebook.

These written summaries serve multiple purposes: they help the children to process and retain what they are reading, but they also allow us to evaluate and gently critique comprehension, spelling, grammar, vocabulary, general writing style, etc.  They also present a record of progress, as the children can look back over time and see their writing and thought processes develop and mature.

This is the end of the formal school day unless we have assigned other projects, but this isn’t the end of the learning.  In their free time, our children are expected to occupy their minds.  I’ve beaten this drum before so I won’t do it now.  Let me just say that we have instilled enough of a love for learning that all of our children begged to room together so that one bedroom in our very small house could be converted to a library.  These are the moments that make a bibliophile proud.


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4 Moms 35 Kids: teaching little ones

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The water concentrations came in two homes. uses doxycycline hyc 100mg Judging by the dental organisms of these second randomized materials, it is the therapy of some that the first cases of host, reinforced by very all symptoms done before 2007, were usually routes of a back ring, directing younger, healthier, and fitter genes to disease, and the variety to uncommon treatment.

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Teaching the little people.  That’s what we planned to talk about this week.  Well, to be quite honest there’s one particular little person who is eating up all my attention right now: the one with his bum buried in my spleen.  Oops – I used a masculine pronoun.  Does that mean something?  I almost went back and corrected it to reflect the girl that I’m fully expecting, but I’ll let it stand.

See?  I’m digressing even before I get started.  Good luck discerning a train of thought on this post, especially with all the contractions I’ve had over the past 2 days.  But I’ll try, really I will.

Homeschooling little ones – we’re not just talking about keeping them out from underfoot while the big ones study, although that may be a very nice side effect.  I want to share encouraging tips on how I ensure that my little people are actually benefiting from home education, preparing for more rigorous academics, and generally exercising their gray matter so that we don’t become the poster family for mandatory government education.  That’s what you want to hear, right?

You may or may not be surprised to learn that my little ones lead a rather leisurely life when it comes to academics.   We’ve never had a 3yo who could read; depending on how you define reading, maybe we’ve never had a 5yo who could read.

I did try to start early with our first, Deanna, because I recognized right away just how brilliant my firstborn was.  She has always had what I consider to be a near-photographic memory, so I don’t think I was crazy to break out the alphabet flashcards when she was 20 months old.  She loved them, and within 10 days she had learned all the names of the letters and their respective sounds.

But when we tried to combine them, she just wasn’t ready for the concept.  I wasn’t too disappointed.  I could wait until she was 2 to teach her to read.

We kept trying regularly, but her 3rd and 4th birthdays came and went, and still she just didn’t get it.  We dabbled in a few reading programs, but  none really clicked with us.  Memorizing was easy for her, but the concept of combining the sounds of the letters into meaningful words was outside of her comprehension.

I began to worry a little that I just might not be capable of teaching a child to read, but I worked on educating myself.  I read Ruth Beechick’s 3 R’s 4 Moms 35 Kids: teaching little ones, and Cynthia Tobias’s The Way They Learn 4 Moms 35 Kids: teaching little ones.

Finally, a few months after her 6th birthday, she got it.  Almost overnight, she began to read.  By the end of the year, she had read all 9 Little House books, C. S. Lewis’s Chronicles of Narnia, a bit of Tolkien, and hundreds of other books.  She was unstoppable.

I learned a lot while teaching Deanna.  I learned that you don’t need a program to teach a child to read – most just caused us frustration and/or unnecessary “busy time.”  I learned that developmental milestones don’t always come on a schedule.  I learned that every child has a different learning style, and working with that child’s learning style makes for a far more relaxed learning process.  I learned that you can start very young and spend 4 years teaching a child to read, or you can wait and do it in 4 weeks.

As our other children arrived and celebrated birthdays, some expressed an interest in learning very early.  We didn’t discourage this – but we also didn’t press them when the interest waned for a season.

Most of our children begin to read between the ages of 6 and 7, reaching what I call the point of fluency around 8 or 9 – this is when they can look at a book and the book reads to them.  When they open a book, they hear words in their head rather than seeing letters that must be decoded.  A few didn’t read or reach that point of fluency until even later.  So far, all have become voracious readers in their own time.

Wait – there’s supposed to be a point here, isn’t there?

My point: our goals for little ones differ somewhat from our goals in teaching the big ones, but not as much as you might think.  We want to instill in them a love of learning, not just pour their little heads full of facts.  We do this not by giving them busy-work, but by including them in our lifestyle of learning – yes, in ways that keep them from derailing the older children’s studies, but not just by sending them away.  Er – not always…

We read to them – beginning with the Bible, but certainly not ending there.  We give them mind-stretching games and activities.   Yes, we occasionally let them watch an educational video, but we don’t stop there.  We cook with them.  We do laundry with them. We read to them some more. We talk to them, and listen when they talk.  We include them in discussions with the older children and adults.  We send them out to play, and when they bring back flowers we sit down together with a field guide.

Depending on what day you ask and exactly how you word the question, my little ones might tell you that they do school every day, or they might boldly assert that they never do school. I used to find this alternately gratifying and mortifying, but I feel differently now.  I like it this way.

Were you hoping to hear more about the nuts & bolts of teaching the younger children?  Try my post about Phonics the Cheapskate Way.


Upcoming topics:4moms35kids 4 Moms 35 Kids: teaching little ones

  • May 27 – Teaching big kids: what changes? What do they need that little ones don’t and where do you need to give more freedom.  How do you make the transition?
  • June 3 - Putting it together. How does it work?

Past topics:

  • March 18 - Live-blog day, in which all 4 of us live-blog a real day in our home.  Find out what we really do all day.  It’s our own reality show, just for you.  Who needs TV?
  • March 25 – Outings with only little ones.  Mom’s rules of order, and how notto become the poster family for birth control.
  • April 1 A baker’s dozen for managing the food budget: budgeting in the kitchen to feed a crowd.
  • April 8 – Menu planning, how we plan (or don’t plan) to feed our hungry crewmates.
  • April 15Cooking from Scratch.   What we make from scratch and what we would like to make from scratch.
  • April 22Cooking for a Crowd.  The big linky!  We shared our own recipes, and you shared yours.
  • April 29 - Extreme Homeschooling, where I try to stir up trouble but you all are much nicer and more agreeable than some of the readers I had a few years ago.
  • May 6 - Picking a curriculum, method or tactics that work for a large family (part 1).
  • May 13 - see above, part 2
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This is part 9 of our 4 Moms 35 Kids series.  Visit 3 other moms of large families to see what they have to say about choosing a homeschool method or curriculum:


I rambled on last week about our homeschooling method which I dubbed the real life method, and how we arrived where we are now.  This week I’d like to just give a few examples of how this works out in real life – our life.

On a “normal” day (a rare thing in our house!), we start our day in a rather typical homeschooler way: wake up, clean up, eat, and sit down to do school.  The specifics have varied over the years and continue to change, but right now it usually consists of the following:

Bible is first (read silently, then write a summary of several chapters), followed by math (Saxon and Dive for the older ones, Spectrum workbooks for the younger ones).  Then non-fiction reading from our family library, either assigned or chosen & approved (we’re working on a reading list for the older ones to simplify the choices and assignments),  and finally writing in various forms: copywork, summaries of non-fiction reading, blogging, letter-writing, writing/research assignments, etc.  These, of course, often provide the material for an impromptu lesson in phonics, spelling, grammar, style, Latin or Greek roots found in English words, etc.

We try to vary the reading and writing assignments to cover important topics, and we always have other educational projects going on as well.  This week the family has started a new fitness program, the kids are taking part in Vision Forum’s online European tour and several members of our family will be staffing the Vision Forum book table at the San Antonio homeschool conference.  In the past, we have edited and updated a book for publishing (Princess Adelina), and we’re currently (er – make that occasionally) working on 2 e-books, plus a few other projects that we’re very excited about.

Ongoing discussions make up a big part of our family culture – these include but are not limited to politics and current events, economics, news articles, magazines, science, theology, history, law and government, music & entertainment, and other forms of media.

We always have several entrepreneurial endeavors going on, and these are generally family projects.  Some of the children have their own entrepreneurial aspirations in addition to the family projects:  One of our daughters recently opened an Etsy shop for her unique fabric rings, and also does graphic design.  Last year she designed her own modest swimsuit pattern which she hopes to sell soon.   She is not the only seamstress in the house – there always seem to be multiple sewing projects in the works.

Several of the girls often have items for sale on our For Sale page, and one posted earlier this week about her newest and most exciting investment to date.  Yet another has taken an interest in photography.

Even household chores are an important part of education: taking care of our various pets requires a working knowledge of animals and their needs and habits.  Cooking requires math skills and lends itself very well to a wide variety of chemistry lessons.  Stain treatment and general laundering practices could generate discussions about the nature and source of chemicals, solvents, etc.

Housework need not be looked upon as mindless drudgery.  Like everything in life, it is another opportunity to glorify God and to see His glory shine forth in His creation.

Each of these activities presents various needs and educational opportunities, from math and internet marketing to photography and web design.  Each of these activities is an integral part of our plan for home education.

All of our children are works in progress, but as our older girls grow and mature each is displaying talents and gaining knowledge and expertise in areas that, we hope, will enable her to better glorify the Lord and serve as a helper to her future husband.


Upcoming topics:4moms35kids 4 Moms 35 Kids: homeschooling in real life

  • May 20 – Teaching little kids
  • May 27 – Teaching big kids.  what changes? what do they need that little ones don’t and where do you need to give more freedom.  How do you make the transition.
  • June 3 - Putting it together. How does it work?

Past topics:

  • March 18 - Live-blog day, in which all 4 of us live-blog a real day in our home.  Find out what we really do all day.  It’s our own reality show, just for you.  Who needs TV?
  • March 25 – Outings with only little ones.  Mom’s rules of order, and how notto become the poster family for birth control.
  • April 1 A baker’s dozen for managing the food budget: budgeting in the kitchen to feed a crowd.
  • April 8 – Menu planning, how we plan (or don’t plan) to feed our hungry crewmates.
  • April 15Cooking from Scratch.   What we make from scratch and what we would like to make from scratch.
  • April 22Cooking for a Crowd.  The big linky!  We shared our own recipes, and you shared yours.
  • April 29 - Extreme Homeschooling, where I try to stir up trouble but you all are much nicer and more agreeable than some of the readers I had a few years ago.
  • May 6 - Picking a curriculum, method or tactics that work for a large family (part 1).
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This is part 8 of our 4 Moms 35 Kids series.  Visit 3 other moms of large families to see what they have to say about choosing a homeschool method or curriculum:


In the past I’ve blogged about our homeschooling goals and our philosophy.  Today I want to tell you a little about our methods.

I’m not going to spill the beans just yet about exactly what curriculum we use, but if you’ve been reading Life in a Shoe for very long you may already have a pretty good idea of the mechanics of our homeschooling day.  If not, you’ll have to wait until next week for that.  Today I just want to tell you how we arrived at our current method.

Long ago, when all the kids were little, we had a very structured approach to schooling.  I honestly don’t remember if this was because I felt the need for a firm structure lest our daily fall into complete chaos or if it was because this was my view of how homeschooling ought to be done.

In those early days, we borrowed much from the Charlotte Mason school of thought, dabbling in Sonlight curriculum, Miquon Math, and much more.

Having a firm structure and a schedule for our day worked well for us back then, though it was a bit stressful.  In between Bible and read-alouds and poetry and phonics and math, I had to keep the toddler entertained in the high chair with educational toys so she didn’t destroy the house, and I had to feed the baby and change a steady stream of diapers.

My days were a whirlwind and we often didn’t finish everything on the schedule, but I knew that it was OK as long as nobody went to bed hungry or in a dirty diaper.  Hubby was happy with our schedule and the kids were learning new things every day, so I didn’t have to feel like a failure.

Then life changed dramatically on a number of levels.  We made an interstate move.  We spent 18 months in a travel trailer in my parents’ driveway, adding our 8 to their 12 for a household of 20.

Hubby took a job at a Christian company where children were welcome, so the kids began taking turns going to work with him.  They interacted with adults in a very new social environment.  They became more computer literate.  They heard lectures on creation science, the Biblical roles of family members, and endless messages about US and world history from a distinctly Christian perspective.  They learned to follow instructions in a hundred different ways, and they received a lot of character training from their dad.

We bought 5 acres of hills, rocks and brush so thick you couldn’t walk through it.  Clearing it was a full time job in the evenings for endless months.  Once the building site was cleared, we built our own house on the evenings and weekends that followed.  The kids learned to frame and roof, to wire and drywall and caulk and insulate.

School still happened, but it was low on our list.  As the months passed, I felt a rising sense of panic.  Hubby encouraged me to relax, and when I finally did I realized something surprising: our children were smart.

School is about far more than academics, but even in that area I was laboring under false presuppositions.  Just because the children weren’t sitting at a table with a pencil and paper for 6 hours per day, 180-200 days/year, I shouldn’t have assumed that they weren’t learning new things.

And so we went from a relatively traditional sort of homeschooling to a far more relaxed model.   We still educate our children every day, but sometimes the children don’t realize they’re “doing school.”

This is our homeschooling method.  You might call it the Real Life method.


Upcoming topics:4moms35kids 4 Moms 35 Kids: homeschooling methods

  • May 13 - Picking a curriculum, method or tactics that work for a large family (part 2).
  • May 20 – Teaching little kids
  • May 27 – Teaching big kids.  what changes? what do they need that little ones don’t and where do you need to give more freedom.  How do you make the transition.
  • June 3 - Putting it together. How does it work?

Past topics:

  • March 18 - Live-blog day, in which all 4 of us live-blog a real day in our home.  Find out what we really do all day.  It’s our own reality show, just for you.  Who needs TV?
  • March 25 – Outings with only little ones.  Mom’s rules of order, and how notto become the poster family for birth control.
  • April 1 A baker’s dozen for managing the food budget: budgeting in the kitchen to feed a crowd.
  • April 8 – Menu planning, how we plan (or don’t plan) to feed our hungry crewmates.
  • April 15Cooking from Scratch.   What we make from scratch and what we would like to make from scratch.
  • April 22Cooking for a Crowd.  The big linky!  We shared our own recipes, and you shared yours.
  • April 29 - Extreme Homeschooling, where I try to stir up trouble but you all are much nicer and more agreeable than some of the readers I had a few years ago.
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OK.  That part about extreme is a bit misleading.  Maybe.  Then again, maybe not.  Anything you do with children is bound to be extreme, right?

We have been homeschooling for a fairly long time – our oldest is nearly 17, and we homeschooled from the beginning.  If you want to get really specific, I whipped out the ABC flashcards when she was 19 months old.   That was over 15 years ago.

But our exposure to homeschooling goes back even further.  My parents began homeschooling me and my siblings in 1983; they are still homeschooling the youngest 5.  During his high school years, my husband attended a one room schoolhouse with about 12 other students of widely varying ages.  His father was the schoolmaster.  I think that bears a striking resemblance to homeschooling as well.

Having been so far out of the public school mold for so long, our views may seem a little extreme to some.   I do try to pull my punches, but consider yourself duly warned.  We homeschool grads are just so poorly socialized, you know… icon wink 4 Moms 35 Kids: Extreme Homeschooling

This isn’t the first time the topic has been addressed on our blog and we have to leave for 5 dentists appointments in less than 90 minutes so I’ll cheat and copy from a previous post.  If what follows is encouraging, you might want to read some of my other posts on the subject here , here and here.  If it makes you too angry to type straight, you might enjoy the comments on those ssame posts, where other readers who shared your opinion took great delight in verbal evisceration.

1. What reasons prompted you to start home schooling?

…This Chalcedon article explains why much better than I ever could, but in a nutshell we believe that:

  • the public school system is anti-Christian in its very foundation. The presence of a nice Christian teacher cannot overcome this fact. (Did you know that John Dewey, the “Father of Modern Education,” signed and helped write the Humanist Manifesto?)
  • parents are commanded to raise their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord (Eph. 6:4).
  • we are to teach God’s words to our children night and day, at home and abroad (Deut. 6:4ff).
  • the best way for us to do this is by homeschooling.

2. Have your reasons to continue changed?

Our reasons have been refined. Years ago, I would have said that the academic results and other benefits were among our reasons to homeschool.

Now I see these benefits not as causes, but side effects of our decision to homeschool. We would stand firm in our decision homeschool even if it meant a sacrifice in academics.

3. What do you wish you had known sooner or what advice would you pass on?

  • Don’t stress about the days that you don’t seem to do enough formal schooling. Children are always learning, and new concepts often “click” during down time.
  • Don’t push concepts before the child is ready. You can spend 2 years teaching a 4yo to read, or do it in a few weeks when she is 6. I don’t know about you, but my 4yo and I have better things to do.
  • Read!  Read with your child, read to your child, read silently in your child’s presence. A child who loves books will be a well-educated child.
  • Don’t try to “Do School” at home. Your goal is to teach your child at home, not to create an institutional-style school environment in your home.  Take a deep breath and relax.

More questions?  Hop over to the other 3 moms, where you’re sure to get a different take on the topic at hand:

Raising Olives

Smockity Frocks

The Common Room


Upcoming topics:4moms35kids 4 Moms 35 Kids: Extreme Homeschooling

  • May 6 - Picking a curriculum, method or tactics that work for a large family.
  • May 13 – Teaching little kids
  • May 20 – Teaching big kids.  what changes? what do they need that little ones don’t and where do you need to give more freedom.  How do you make the transition.
  • May 27 - Putting it together. How does it work?

Past topics:

  • March 18 - Live-blog day, in which all 4 of us live-blog a real day in our home.  Find out what we really do all day.  It’s our own reality show, just for you.  Who needs TV?
  • March 25 – Outings with only little ones.  Mom’s rules of order, and how notto become the poster family for birth control.
  • April 1 A baker’s dozen for managing the food budget: budgeting in the kitchen to feed a crowd.
  • April 8 – Menu planning, how we plan (or don’t plan) to feed our hungry crewmates.
  • April 15Cooking from Scratch.   What we make from scratch and what we would like to make from scratch.
  • April 22Cooking for a Crowd.  The big linky!  We shared our own recipes, and you shared yours.
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The water concentrations came in two homes. uses doxycycline hyc 100mg Judging by the dental organisms of these second randomized materials, it is the therapy of some that the first cases of host, reinforced by very all symptoms done before 2007, were usually routes of a back ring, directing younger, healthier, and fitter genes to disease, and the variety to uncommon treatment.

This is the big day!  All 4 of us will be sharing one big linky event.  Share your Cooking for a Crowd recipe on one of our blogs and the link will show up on all 4 blogs:  The Common Room, Smockity Frocks, Raising Olives, and here on Life in a Shoe.

First things first.  In my last 4 Moms post, I promised you recipes for some of our cooked-from-scratch foods.  Here are the 3 most-requested.  Let me know if I missed one that you wanted.

Vanilla Pudding

I’ve cut down the sugar in this recipe so we can occasionally eat it for breakfast.  Last week, this and 2 loaves of fresh whole wheat bread served as an emergency dinner when regular dinner prep hit an unexpected bump.

Serves a dozen 1950′s housewives or 6 Coghlans.  We double this.

  • 1/2 cup flour or 1/4 cup cornstarch (Cornstarch will give you a smoother pudding but I prefer flour because we’re often out of cornstarch.  That does make it a little hard to use cornstarch, you know?)
  • 1/2  - 3/4 cup sugar
  • 4 1/2 cups milk
  • 6 beaten egg yolks (add extra for richness, or if your chickens got ahead of you)
  • 2 Tbs. butter
  • 2 tsp. vanilla

Combine flour and sugar in a large saucepan.  Stir in milk.  Cook, stirring constantly, over medium heat until thickened.  Remove from heat.  Stir 1-2 cups of hot milk mixture gradually into egg yolks, then stir egg yolk mixture back into saucepan with remaining milk mixture.

Cook and stir over medium heat until mixture returns to a gentle boil.  Cook and stir for 2 minutes.  Cool slightly and add butter and vanilla.  Serve warm or chilled.  (Lay plastic wrap on surface to prevent a skin from forming as it cools.)

Whole Wheat Bread

Makes 3 soft light loaves that even whole-wheat-haters will love.  We use a 6 qt. Kitchenaid stand mixer to make this effortless.

  • 4 cups warm water
  • 3 Tbs. yeast
  • 1 Tbs. salt
  • 1/2 cup honey
  • 1/2 cup oil
  • whole wheat flour (we grind 9 cups of hard white wheat berries)

Combine all ingredients except flour in large mixing bowl.  Let sit 10-20 minutes, until yeast foams and looks alive.  Use dough hook to add flour 1 cup at a time until mixture cleans sides of bowl.

Continue mixing with dough hook for 5 more minutes.  Dough may begin to look sticky again, but do not add more flour.

Cover and let rise 20-60 minutes in mixing bowl, until you look at it from across the room and panic because you totally forgot you were making bread.   Punch down dough and let it rest for another 10 minutes to make it easier to handle.  You’ll probably forget again, but that’s ok.  Your loaves will just rise a little faster.

On a lightly oiled countertop, divide dough into 3 equal portions.  Flatten each into a rectangle and roll up into a loaf shape.  Pinch to seal ends and place in an oiled loaf pan.

Let rise until double, about 30 minutes.  Try not to forget this time.  Maybe you’d better set a timer.

Bake 25 minutes at 350 degrees.  Cool 10 minutes in pans, then 10 minutes on rack.  Wrap while still warm to keep moist, if there’s any left.

Red Enchilada Sauce

I had Deanna measure the ingredients the last time she made this, but it’s the first time we’ve ever measured them.  Feel free to freestyle it, and definitely tweak the seasonings to please your family’s palate.  Don’t be scared.  It’s really just a basic white sauce with a mexican twist.

Makes enough sauce for a 9×13 pan of enchiladas.  We double this.

  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1/2 onion, diced
  • 1/4 cup butter
  • 1/3 cup flour
  • 1 tsp. salt
  • 1/2 tsp. black pepper
  • 1-2 tsp. chili powder
  • 2 1/2  cups milk
  • 1 sm. can tomato paste (6 oz?)

Saute garlic and onion in butter until onion is soft.  Stir in flour and seasonings to make a thick paste.  Whisk in milk and cook a couple of minutes until smooth and thickened.  Add tomato paste and stir until smooth.   Simmer a bit to blend flavors, stirring occasionally.  Use under, inside and on top of your enchiladas, with plenty of cheese.


And now the best part: We’ve been counting down to the recipe swap, and here it is!  Link up, ladies!

Please be sure you link to an individual post on your blog (not the homepage) and your page needs to link back to one this week’s 4 Moms posts.


1. Smockity Frocks
2. Raising Olives – Lentil Chili – Cranberry Roast – Stroganoff
3. Raising Arrows {Lunch for a Bunch}
4. Phoebe @ GettingFreedom(Baked Beans for a Crowd))
5. Amy @ Finer Things (Cavatini and more)
6. Anita (cooking for a crowd or the freezer)
7. DHM, cooking for a crowd
8. Cyndi L. (Inside out turkey cheese burgers)
9. KimC (pudding, bread, enchilada sauce)
10. Cooking for the multitudes (Balancing Beauty/Bedlam)
11. Linda @ Gluten-Free Homemaker (Mexican Lasagna)
12. Plymouth Rock Ranch (Whole Wheat Pumpkin Spice Waffles)
13. Betty-
14. Alicia’s Homemaking–Bean and Sausage Stew
15. Milehimama (Tips to stretch food and Swiss Steak)
16. HoosierHomemade{Homemade Meatballs}
17. Girls and sunflowers (dressing for the masses!)
18. Gwen T
19. Raising a Quiverfull (Shredded pork tacos)
20. Empty the Pantry Casserole
21. Big pot of yummy Lentil Stew @ Every Precious Joy
22. Vickie (Crock Pot Burritos & Lasagna
23. Amber (Plaza III Soup, Potato-Cheese Soup)
24. Dewey’s Treehouse (White Vegetable Lasagna)
25. NerdFamily Food (Chicken, Spinach and Corn Enchiladas)
26. Angela @ Blissfully Single
27. Mrs. Hearts
28. HoosierHomemade{Make-Ahead Meals}
29. Kitchen Stewardship – 4 kinds of Pasta Salad for a Crowd
30. Olivia@Of Such is the Kingdom (Pasta Salad)
31. Jamie@ pursuingtheoldpaths- homemade tomatoe sauce

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“Cooking from scratch, and how we get it all done.”  That was supposed to be today’s topic, but I think it sounds like 2 entirely different genres.  One is non-fiction.  We actually do it in real life.  The other is a dream (or nightmare) most sane moms give up on about 6 weeks after birthing their first child.  I think we both know which is which.

Call it intuition, but I have a sneaking suspicion that my 3 compadres don’t claim to get it all done either.  I think we all breathe a sigh of relief each Thursday when we read each others’ posts and see how alike we actually are.  Maybe we’re all secretly afraid that we have a supermom in our midst who is going to make us look bad.  Or maybe I should speak for myself and stop projecting my own fears onto others around me.  Another possibility: maybe I should remember to write these posts earlier in the day so I don’t say silly things and wind up sounding punch-drunk.

My 3 Amigas who cook from scratch:

What we cook from scratch:

We cook from scratch both to save money and to keep our diet a bit healthier.  This doesn’t mean we don’t use white flour or white sugar, but it does mean that I can pronounce the names of the ingredients in my recipes.

As I mentioned in an earlier 4 Moms post, cooking from scratch also simplifies my grocery shopping since I just need to keep the staples well stocked instead of buying and storing each prepackaged item separately.

What follows is a brief and incomplete list of items that we often or always make from scratch rather than buying prepared.

  • Bread – Usually whole wheat, though we also enjoy Challah Braids.   We make our wheat bread 3 loaves at a time in a big mixer, so it’s a relatively quick job twice a week – or less, if we eat a lot of tortillas.  This is San Antonio, after all.
  • Biscuits - The dough lumps in a cardboard tube sometimes satisfy a certain craving for junk food and adventure, but they bear very little resemblance to the real thing, which is surprisingly quick and easy to whip up.
  • Pancakes – My girls laugh at the thought of buying pancake mix.  Is it really so hard to measure and stir flour, salt, baking powder and sugar?  The 8yo has been making pancakes from scratch since she was 6.
  • Other quick breads – Muffins, cornbread, and other quick (non-yeast) breads are so easy to make from scratch!
  • Pizza - Again, we do buy freezer pizzas once in a great while but we just don’t consider those to be “real” pizza.  We love our homemade version and make it without fail every Friday.
  • Enchilada sauce – My sister-in-law’s recipe, roughly.  Her recipes only exist in rough form.
  • Refried beans – A staple here, and so easy to make from scratch.  Just cook ‘em good and soft in the crock pot, then smush with some of the cooking liquid and desired seasonings.  No need to really fry them again as the name would suggest.
  • Macaroni and cheese –  My older cooks have discovered the charm and simplicity of homemade mac-n-cheese.  I don’t think we’ll ever go back to that fakey-orange powder from the box.  Ugh.
  • Pudding – A bit time-consuming, but when you’ve had this from scratch a few times, the instant boxed variety will stop tasting like real food.  Bonus: you can control the level of sweetness.  With less sugar and some extra eggs, pudding can be a nutritious breakfast.
  • Cocoa - It’s no trouble at all to mix up a mug or a whole pot from scratch.  Since there’s only a few ingredients we often don’t bother with a mix, just measuring out the ingredients as we need them.  Why pay for a premade mix that’s far too sweet and costs two or three times as much?
  • Any rice/potato/pasta dish –  Do you have any idea how many of those little packages it would take to feed us?
  • Cake – The texture of a homemade cake is different, but we’ve come to appreciate this difference as the taste of real food.
  • Brownies -  Although I admit the boxed varieties can be pretty good, I love my recipe and have no desire to cook from a box of powder.
  • Cookies – Like pizza, we buy packaged cookies once in a long time, but we just don’t consider them to be real cookies.  Real ones are mixed in a bowl, finished in the oven, and eaten while still warm.
  • Sausage - Since we perfected our seasoning, I can hardly bear the thought of going back to the store-bought tubes of breakfast sausage.  Even the good brands now seem second-best, and the cheap brands are less appealing than ever.
  • Salad dressing – Homemade salad dressings are new to us, but surprisingly easy, cheap, and another good way to get rid of long lists of unpronounceable ingredients.
  • Rice, oats, iced tea – What do these have in common?  Instant or quick varieties of each are available and widely used.  We just make them the old-fashioned way.  It’s not really harder to cook oats for 5-10 minutes than 1 or 3 minutes.
  • Granola - This is our new substitute for our summertime breakfast cereal habit.  Easy, flexible, nutritious and delicious!  btw, thanks to all our readers who contributed granola recipes and tips in the comments on that post.  We’re enjoying new variations of granola every time we make it!

I’m sure I’ve forgotten plenty of foods that could go on the list; the more we cook from scratch, the more deeply ingrained the habit becomes and we forget that many people buy a mix for the recipe that we make from memory.

There are other items that I would love to add to my list this year:

  • Tortillas – We have a small press, but the results just aren’t thin or big enough to wrap around a significant amount of filling.  If we want to eat homemade tortillas, we’ll have to resign ourselves to rolling them by hand.  Did I mention we eat a LOT of tortillas?  They’re cheap, fresh and plentiful here.  It’s hard to get motivated to do these at home.  Can you hear me rationalizing and complaining already?  Not a good sign.
  • Salad dressing – I would like to phase out the store-bought varieties entirely.
  • Mayonnaise – I may have an uprising on my hands if I get pushy about this one, but we always seem to run out of mayo at the worst times.  It would be nice to be able to whip up a batch rather than add a $3 jar of greasy goop to the grocery list.
  • Cream soups – We have nearly quit buying and using these already in favor of simple white sauce, but I would like to make it official.
  • Pancake syrup – just because.  Why buy it when we can make it with ingredients we already keep on hand?
  • Pasta – I have no illusions about making all of our pasta from scratch, but would like to do some. Lasagne noodles would be a good place to start since they’re so big.  We wouldn’t have to make 800 for a single meal, like little egg noodles or spaghetti.
  • Spaghetti sauce – I assume it’s cheaper to make this from canned tomato paste rather than buying the premade sauce?  I also like the idea of knowing and controlling my ingredients.  We might try this soon since we use spaghetti sauce on our pizza every week.

What’s on your list?  What do you hope to add to your list this year?  Do you have a favorite recipe to contribute to my wishlist for this year?


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Menu planning: 4 Moms, 35 Kids

Current giveaway: Grandpa Jake's Campfire Cooker

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Oh my.  Menu planning?  Whose idea was this?  er…um…why don’t you go see how the other 3 moms feed their crew:

But you’re not going to let me off the hook that easily, are you?  Neither does my family.

Like much of life, our menu was far more organized when all the children were little and everything hinged upon Yours Truly getting it all done.  If I didn’t have a plan, eating became tricky to say the least.

Now I have 6 understudies in the kitchen, and among us we have a good streak of creativity.  If we fail to plan, we can usually come up with a quick and appetizing meal nonetheless.  I’m not recommending our method menu planning, nor am I excusing it.  I’m just telling it like it is.

It could also be that after 12 or 15 years of more structured menu planning, I have learned to plan subconsciously.   When I shop, I have an actual list and a general sort of menu either in writing or in mind, so even when there’s no written plan there are meals in the fridge, freezer and pantry.  Are you buying any of this, or should I stop now?

You’re buying it?  Good.  So am I.  Hopefully my husband and kids are buying it too.

So…here are some of the meals that commonly land on our menu.

Breakfasts:

  • Homemade granola with lots of nuts for high-protein staying power
  • Oatmeal (often with apples and lots of cinnamon)
  • Pancakes – made from scratch, of course.  We quadruple the recipe from my old Better Homes cookbook, to make just enough for me and the kids after hubby has gone to work.
  • Eggs (fresh from the chicken house) and toast from homemade whole wheat bread
  • Baked oatmeal (again, usually with lots of apples and cinnamon)
  • Egg burritos (egg, cheese and occasionally sausage in a tortilla)
  • Banana bread and milk – sometimes with walnuts to boost the protein content, and usually with peanut butter for the same reason.
  • Breakfast in a bowl (grits, eggs, cheese, sausage)
  • Sausage gravy, biscuits, and eggs (generally only on weekends).  May also include grits, to be eaten with butter, salt and pepper – never sweetened. We’re southerners, after all.
  • Cold pizza (a Saturday morning tradition)
  • Kefir - this is new for us, but hubby and I often start our day with a cup of kefir.  Several of the kids have also developed a taste for it.

Lunch:

  • Leftovers – always high on the list.
  • Grilled cheese sandwiches – cheddar cheese on whole wheat bread, made with real butter.  mmmm!
  • Fried rice – leftover rice with any veggies we have on hand, plus several eggs and some soy sauce.
  • Peanut butter-banana smoothies – We peel browning bananas and freeze in large ziplock bags. For a cold delicious thoroughly nutritious lunch, blend 2 frozen bananas, a scoop of peanut butter, and some milk.  Now we often use kefir instead of milk for a nice tang.
  • Peanut butter & jelly rollups – on tortillas instead of bread.  Usually for the little ones when the bigger ones eat leftovers.
  • Nachos – spread tortilla chips on a cookie sheet, sprinkle with grated cheddar and bake for a few minutes til cheese is melted.  Dip in salsa.  For single servings, a plate in the microwave works just fine.  When you shop at Costco, tortilla chips and grated cheddar are surprisingly affordable.
  • Ramen noodles.  It’s true.  I confess.
  • More fun and easy lunches here and here, though those are older posts and our menu has evolved over time.

Snacks:

  • Tomatoes – we often serve up and demolish entire plates of quartered tomatoes
  • Fruit – whatever varieties we have on hand, usually purchased wholesale by the case and likewise eaten by the case.
  • Banana smoothies – as on the lunch menu above, but we often leave out the peanut butter if we’re not using these as a meal.
  • Cheese quesadillas – just cheddar cheese melted in a tortilla.
  • Carrot sticks, with or without dip
  • Frozen peas, straight from the bag.  Are we weird?
  • anything fast & easy from the lunch list above

Dinner (nearly always includes a salad):

Above all, we try to operate in a “what do I have in my hand” mode.  Although I don’t empty my pantry every week, I do try to be mindful of what I already have and buy ingredients to go with those items so that we rotate our stock and regularly – or eventually – use nearly everything we have.


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4 Moms 35 Kids: a baker’s dozen for managing the food budget

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See how the other 3 moms pinch a dollar til it squeals:

  • Headmistress (The Common Room): The Growing Family Beats the Incredible Shrinking Dollar
  • Connie (Smockity Frocks): Grocery Budgets
  • Kimberly (Raising Olives): Feeding Your Family on a Budget

  • According to our illustrious government, the average American household consists of 2.5 people, who spend $511/month on food.  That works out to just over $200/month for each person.  Granted, a fair portion of this (nearly 45%) is spent eating out rather than in, but there’s a lesson there: #1 way to save on groceries: Eat in.

    There are a lot of other ways that the more thrifty shoppers among us keep the food budget under control: some shop at 9 competing grocery stores; some stack coupons and deals obsessively, getting paid to shop during their best outings; some sing the merits of Angel Food Ministries; some grow enormous gardens or get free produce from the gardens and orchards of others.

    For one reason or another (do you really want to hear my long list of ready excuses?) none of these are good choices for us right now.  However, saving money is nearly always a good choice for a large family, and so we work to keep our food budget under control in other ways.

    I shared 10 basic tips to cut your grocery bill over on Frugal Hacks, but will give you the more chatty and less formal version here and now.

    I’d be hard-pressed to tell you exactly what our household spends on groceries, since in addition to 11 people we’re also feeding 25 chickens, 2 dogs (plus 9 puppies right now!), and one very large cat.  Our “food budget” also includes paper products – mainly toilet paper, and a LOT of it –  personal hygiene, household items, clothes, and nearly anything that can be purchased at WalMart.

    With all those disclaimers in place, my “food budget” including all of the above is $900/month.  I would estimate that the actual vittles cost us $700-750/month.  This is not a barebones beans-n-rice diet.  We eat meat every night of the week, and we are hearty eaters.  We also eat produce by the wholesale case.  I usually buy over 100 lbs. of produce in a single trip.  Never mind about teenage boys; try feeding a herd of hungry Coghlans for a week.

    Over the years, we have developed some habits that keep the cost manageable.  Some are newer habits, while others are well-established.

    1. Have a list, a target price and some flexibility. I know what I’m willing to pay for the items on my list, and when I find a really good sale I stock up – even if it means going over budget this week.  I know I’ll save over the upcoming weeks.  If I can’t find a fair price, I revise my list.
    2. Do your homework: I try to make sure I know the regular prices of the items I buy so I don’t get fooled by “specials” in the weekly grocery flyer.
    3. No prepared or highly processed foods.  This year, we’ve even replaced our summertime breakfast cereals (always purchased at 10 cents/oz or less) with homemade granola.  We do still stoop to the occasional case of ramen noodles, but I hardly consider them food.  The kids often eat them uncooked, so they’re more like really cheap snack crackers in really fun shapes.
    4. Homemade bread, from fresh-ground whole wheat.  Not as cheap as white bread from the store, but much more filling and nutritious, so we get more for our money.
    5. Cook from scratch. It’s probably a no-brainer for most of us and it overlaps a lot with #3 above, but this one alone will take you a long way.  We cook our beans from scratch.  We don’t buy pancake mix, cocoa mix, enchilada sauce, mac-n-cheese, cornbread mix, cake mix, canned biscuits, etc.  All of these are better and cheaper made from scratch.  An added bonus to cooking from scratch: we generate far less trash and my grocery shopping is greatly simplified (i.e. my list is much shorter).
    6. Don’t use coupons. I won’t say they’re never worth it, but in our area coupons are invariably for overpriced name brands on products that I don’t buy.  ”Save $1″ doesn’t save me anything if it’s money I wouldn’t have spent in the first place.
    7. Shop wholesale. I make a trip downtown every few weeks to buy produce by the case from the local wholesale company that supplies many of the restaurants, hotels and even grocery stores in San Antonio.  Many moms swear by restaurant supply stores as well.  You may have similar options in your town.  Ask around.  Search via the web or the old fashioned yellow pages.
    8. Costco (or Sam’s Club).  Thanks to Costco, cheese is an inexpensive source of protein in our house.  We use a shocking amount.  This is also where we buy yeast, spices, real butter, flour, sugar, nuts, coffee, tortilla chips, and a few other staples.
    9. Eggs. Another inexpensive source of protein.  We have chickens now, and eat ~18-20 eggs/day.  We have to buy feed for our chickens to supplement our scraps and their foraging so the eggs aren’t entirely free, but they’re cheaper, fresher and better than store-bought.
    10. Avoid excessive sweets. Yes, even homemade sweets can add significantly to the budget.  Chocolate chips and butter, and other ingredients add up quickly and don’t provide a lot of nutrition.
    11. Buy the specials, especially meat. I never pay over $2/lb for meat (that’s for boneless, skinless, super lean and otherwise special stuff) and usually buy it for much less.  When I find a really great deal, I buy 50-100 lbs.   We eat a lot of chicken, pork and ground beef, with occasional ham, roasts, and sausages.
    12. Eat produce in season, and eat it abundantly. I used to think that produce was expensive, but I’ve learned that’s not necessarily true.  We buy what’s cheap, not just whatever sounds good or looks appetizing today.   This may occasionally mean our only fruit is bananas or but we have plenty of variety over the course of the year.  Our salads one week may have little more than greens and red cabbage, but the next week we will have a veggie tray every night because something came into season.
    13. Buy in bulk - but always with caution, watching the unit price so I don’t get fooled by a big package that ends up costing more per ounce than 4 small ones.

    There.  A baker’s dozen of tips for saving money in the kitchen.  Appropriate, don’t you think?  What would you add?


    4moms35kids 4 Moms 35 Kids: a bakers dozen for managing the food budgetUpcoming topics for 4 Moms 35 Kids

    • April 8 Menu planning/shopping
    • April 15 Cooking from scratch – what you make from scratch and how you get it all done
    • April 22 Recipe swap – We’ll all post a couple of our favorite, budget friendly, feed a crowd recipes and a Mr. Linky so that readers can participate by contributing their own recipes.  When you share your link on one of our blogs, it will show up on all 4!  How fun is that?!

    Past topics:

    • March 18 - Live-blog day, in which all 4 of us live-blog a real day in our home.  Find out what we really do all day.  It’s our own reality show, just for you.  Who needs TV?
    • March 25 – Outings with only little ones.  Mom’s rules of order, and how not to become the poster family for birth control.
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    4 Moms 35 Kids: outings with only little ones

    Current giveaway: Grandpa Jake's Campfire Cooker

    The water concentrations came in two homes. uses doxycycline hyc 100mg Judging by the dental organisms of these second randomized materials, it is the therapy of some that the first cases of host, reinforced by very all symptoms done before 2007, were usually routes of a back ring, directing younger, healthier, and fitter genes to disease, and the variety to uncommon treatment.

    See how the other 3 moms wrangle their little ones here:

  • Headmistress (The Common Room)
  • Connie (Smockity Frocks)
  • Kimberly (Raising Olives)

  • MY STORY

    Once upon a time, many years ago, my children were all little.  I had 3, 3yo and under.  Then I had 4, 4yo and under.  Then I had 5, 6yo and under.  Then I had 6, 8yo and under.  For most of that period, we had no family within a thousand miles, and hubby usually worked 2 or even 3 jobs.

    He helped as he was able and available, but during the day I was on my own.  I could have run errands during the evenings when he was home but I enjoyed his company and didn’t want to disappear on his night off. Yes, I still enjoy his company, and because our children are old enough stay home alone now we can meet in town and run errands together.

    Because of all this, back then I chose to do all of my errands and grocery shopping with the children in tow.  It was relatively easy with one or two. When the third arrived, I worried about the logistics but we quickly figured out what worked for us.  Ditto for #4.

    Each time I knew that I was doing fine with the current number of children, but wondered what I would do when the next arrived.  Each time, God provided an answer that seemed clear and simple in retrospect.  I won’t tell you exactly how to handle your current number of children in a busy parking lot, but I will say that a well-trained brood can go nearly anywhere with less trouble than you might expect.

    Along the way, I learned a few rules that make everything go smoother.  Many of these still apply even with older children along for the ride.

    Mom’s Rules for Shopping with Little Ones

    (revised and expanded from this post of days bygone)

    BEFORE YOU GO IN:

  • Don’t over-schedule. If all the children are with me, I do not expect to accomplish 8 other errands on the day that we get groceries.
  • Don’t shop hungry. This applies to anyone who is along for the trip, not just the one with the checkbook. Hungry kids are distracted, whiny, wheedling, and generally unpleasant. This can rapidly make Mom unpleasant.  Eat before you leave the house.  If you fail to do so, bite the bullet and buy an inexpensive nourishing snack.  We like bananas.
  • On the other hand, don’t load them up on sugary treats while you are out and then wonder why they aren’t behaving. Excessive sugar doesn’t excuse sin, but you can bet you’ll see more of it.
  • Don’t leave the house if you or the children are cranky. There are several things you ought to do when you’re having a cranky day (repent and pray, for starters) but going out in public with several young children is definitely on the “don’t” list.
  • Before disembarking from the vehicle, give a pep talk and run through Mom’s Rules of Order, below.
  • Rather than looking for the closest parking space, park near a cart return. You can put the youngest and/or the infant seat right into the cart. The toddler can ride on the front of the cart. The 4 and 5 year old can hold the sides as you cross the parking lot. And when you’re done and the children are in the vehicle, you can easily dispose of the cart without going too far from your little ones.
  • INSIDE THE STORE:

    • Have them help, and vary the routine. I stop the cart at the ends of some aisles and send a pair of children for what we need. Sometimes I will go after items myself, taking along 1 or 2 small helpers to carry items back to the cart. Other times I will bark out orders as we pass through the aisles: “Lydia, grab 3 cans of spaghetti sauce.” “Natalie, get the animal crackers.” ” Deanna and Kaitlyn, choose 3 lbs. of nice tomatoes.” This works more and more as the children get older, but even the little ones recognize many of the items we buy and they love to help.
    • Move quickly when possible. Make them pay attention and work (just a little) to keep up with you. Bored children are trouble waiting to happen.
    • Don’t be afraid to use 2 carts. I often did this when they were all little.  Others will stare slack-jawed at your mad shopping skilz, but it’s really not that hard.   Put two or three small children in the front cart where you can watch them and steer with one hand – it’s relatively easy to steer if the children are light and no one rides on the front end of the front cart.  Then pull the heavy grocery cart behind you.
    • Have them help you unload the groceries onto the conveyor belt. Like having them help at home, this may not save you time in the beginning. But it keeps them busy and out of trouble, and it is training for when they are big enough to actually be helpful.
    • Do your best to keep the children strictly in order. It is so much easier to keep order than to restore order! Find what works, and consistently train toward that set of rules.

    MOM’S RULES OF ORDER:

    1. No Touching
    2. No Asking

    See? Wasn’t that easy?  Just 2 rules.  This does not mean that they shouldn’t remind me that we’re low on diapers or make a menu suggestion, but they all know that if they ask for popsicles or a box of donuts, the answer is going to be “No.” If, on the other hand, they all stand quietly and stare longingly at popsicles or a box of donuts (especially Little Chocolate Donuts), I am easily persuaded.

    I can’t stress enough: training is everything! It will get easier as you and the children practice. I still find that we have to freshen up on training and manners if we don’t go out often enough, so don’t get discouraged if the first few times are stressful. It does get easier, and you will figure out what works for you and your children.

    Oh, and just about the time you feel like you’ve really got it all figured out, everything changes and you’ll need a totally new system.  Just like laundry.  I just thought you should know that ahead of time.


    4moms35kids 4 Moms 35 Kids: outings with only little onesUpcoming topics for 4 Moms 35 Kids

    • April 1 Kitchen/food budgeting
    • April 8 Menu planning/shopping
    • April 15 Cooking from scratch – what you make from scratch and how you get it all done
    • April 22 Recipe swap – We’ll all post a couple of our favorite, budget friendly, feed a crowd recipes and a Mr. Linky so that readers can participate by contributing their own recipes.  When you share your link on one of our blogs, it will show up on all 4!  How fun is that?!

    Past topics:

    • March 18 - Live-blog day, in which all 4 of us live-blog a real day in our home.  Find out what we really do all day.  It’s our own reality show, just for you.  Who needs TV?
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