Your burning questions answered

I am pleased to present answers to a few of your questions from my pathetic Help Me post. Thanks for jump-starting my brain.

On your book, Princess Adelina , who is Julie Sutter? I keep getting confused how it’s your book and yet doesn’t have your names on it….Could you give us a puzzle piece?

Julie Sutter was the author of the original book.  We didn’t write the book.  We just found an old book, retyped, updated and edited it, created maps and a glossary, etc.  Then we presented it to Vision Forum for re-publishing.  Our names are inside, as editors.

Tell us how schooling is different now than when you were being homeschooled. What are you thankful for that you know since you were homeschooled?

We were homeschool pioneers when I was a kid.  We hid in the house during school hours and endeavored to recreate the institutional school experience at home, minus the humanistic worldview.  Well, not exactly – but there was no such thing as unschooling, relaxed schooling, or even the eclectic approach.  Each step away from “the norm” was akin to walking on the moon: one small step for [a] man, one giant leap for mankind.  My parents were brave pioneers during an early and uncertain time for homeschooling, and I’m thankful to be farther down that path in a friendlier part of the woods.  I’m thankful to be another generation removed from the assumption that “real school” = age segregated children learning from a canned curriculum in an institutionalized setting.

update us on how your chicken experiment is going!

After a brief and horrible misunderstanding with our Golden Retriever regarding her life purpose and that of our chickens, our hen population has stabilized at just under 20, and we were getting 1-2 eggs/day.  That’s pretty pathetic, but I blame myself.  I have read that most chickens need 14-17 hours of daylight for optimum laying, and it took me weeks to drag my sorry carcass out to the chicken house to install a light to fool our hens into believing that it’s still summer.

Now, after 3 days of never-ending light, our production is up to 3 eggs/day and we’ve had our first 2 green eggs which means that new hens are laying.  Of course we’re hoping that it will rise more than that.  My suspicion is that it will take a while to kick everyone’s body clocks into action.

I’m curious about the potted plants on your deck. Was it worthwhile? Do you plan on doing it again next year?

Worthwhile?  No.  But we had a brutally hot summer and I’ve heard that very few gardens in south Texas were worthwhile this year, so I’m hesitant to call it quits on our deck garden after the first season.  We’ll probably give it another shot next year.

Why don’t you re-post your birth stories? Those are some of my favorites.

Thank you.  I enjoy them too, especially in the past sense.  Not so much at the time.  Here they are:

Current chore list

This question popped up once or twice when I asked for blogging ideas, so here’s what we do currently.  The list changes about every 3 months.  This is more often than hubby and I prefer, but not nearly as often as the children would like.

  • Deanna (16yo): clean & straighten living room; plan and cook dinner; rinse dinner dishes; iron
  • Kaitlyn (14yo): burn trash; clean & straighten dining room; put away clean dishes; iron
  • Lydia (13yo): Lydia has requested all outdoor and animal duties: feed & water animals (chickens, dogs, cat); keep yard picked up; take out compost; “first shift” on dinner dishes (clear & wipe counters, put away leftovers, set up coffee for following morning); iron
  • Megan (11yo): clean & straighten bathroom and kitchen; wash dinner dishes; iron
  • Natalie (9yo) & Becca (8yo): hang all laundry to dry; sort and fold dry laundry, put away towels and diapers; clean & straighten laundry room; breakfast & lunch dishes; clear & wipe table after dinner.
  • Rachael (5yo): clean and straighten deck (under Lydia’s supervision); help clear table after dinner.
  • Perry (3yo): empty small trash cans in bedrooms.

More notes:

The kids also put away their own laundry and are responsible to keep their bedroom clean.

8yo Becca very often volunteers to cook breakfast.  She made pancakes this morning.

Deanna often has help with dinner.  Her primary duty is to plan and prepare a main dish.

This list is not comprehensive: some people regularly help above and beyond the scope of their daily chores, and I have no reservation about making “extra” requests of anyone and everyone when the need arises.  The sentence, “But that’s not my job” is a capital offense in our house.  We used to have more children, but had to make examples of some.  😉

Frugal living

Debbie left a comment on this post about frugal living that I’d like to share because it was very encouraging to me.  We are not crazy just because we don’t live the typical American-consumer lifestyle!

These are truly remarkable adjustments you have made.  The added bonus is that should we reach a point when we MUST live without these conveniences we take for granted, it will not be the same shock to  your family that it will to most.

I am currently visiting my son and family in Japan where the cost of living is through the roof and they are forced to be frugal.  Last month this family’s water bill alone was $300 – JUST WATER.  They think twice about long showers, extra laundry etc.  Power and propane fuel is unbelievably high.  I notice that they don’t dispense paper napkins, towels, etc. at home or in restaurants.  We have come to rely so much on disposable everything and we waste so much in overpackaging – another reason to do more from scratch.

In Japan, they carry their groceries to the car, bus or train in reusable containers because they have to pay extra for a plastic or paper bag.  Wouldn’t it be wise to start this before we  have to pay for the luxury?

My son does the laundry and he hangs the clothes, often strung in bedrooms, kitchen and anywhere they can mount a rod or hang a plastic hanger.  With lots of rain here, (and snow in winter in this part of Japan)  they often don’t have the option of hanging outside.  But, when they can there is plenty of support since everyone here is in the same boat – no snooty neighbors or ridiculous restrictive covenants that force unnecessary expenditures.

Where I live incineration is against the law due to air quality concerns.  I remember having these in the 50s and early 60s.  It really cuts down on garbage.  The local restrictions can make it hard at times but in this valley we do need to make changes for the good of the community.

You probably use ceiling fans.  I have installed these in two bedrooms as well as the living room and find them to be very helpful and cost very little.  (Be sure they are switched the right direction depending on the season).  How quickly we forget that we managed without A/C in the past – even in the car driving through the desert to Disneyland.  I have no doubt that some places are worse than others without A/C or central heating.  Here in northern Japan where climate is similar to Salt Lake where I live, only individual rooms are heated in winter when they are in use – thus the sliding walls and window coverings (paper, rice weave, bamboo, etc.).  The children are very good at knowing to keep the rooms closed to conserve the energy and not let heat escape in winter.  The same in summer but they only use A/C rarely in a single room.  They have also learned that huge homes are not “needs.”  There is much we could learn from different cultures.

I guess my suggestion is just to consider all we take for granted and realize much of it is habit; not necessity. (emphasis mine)

Frugal living is simply good stewardship in action, and is one of the ways we seek to honor God.  It won’t look the same in every family and household, but we all need to live within our means and make the most of the blessings God grants us.

From the mailbag: getting little ones to sleep all night

Tammy asked,
I have three little ones…ages 5, 3, and 18 months.  None of them sleep through the night.  The 5-year-old has autism and I think will probably always have trouble sleeping…I am not so worried about him.

It’s the younger two girls that are making me nuts!  They both wake several times during the night and I have to get up and tend to them.

Our house is very tiny and the girls share a room.  Letting one of them cry it out would mean the entire house would be awake.  I wouldn’t even mind that except that I don’t want to wake my husband.  He has to get to work, and he is not very good with night-time wakings.  We are better off if daddy gets to sleep!

I just haven’t figured out a low-noise way to get them to sleep through the night.

Any ideas?

This might not be what you were hoping to hear but my best advice would be to make sure hubby is on the same page and give up trying to do it without a lot of noise.  🙂
If you are consistent, the adjustment really shouldn’t take long and will be worth the sleep you and your husband lose.
If that simply isn’t an option, I would try to sooth them without getting them out of bed or turning on any lights.  Don’t necessarily *put* them back to sleep, since they need to learn to do this themselves, but help calm and reassure them so that they can fall back to sleep as quickly and naturally as possible.  No drinks or snacks, no playing or socializing, no diaper changes unless absolutely necessary.  With some persistence you should be able to shift your children’s sleep patterns toward a full night.
Having said that, I’ll take this opportunity to confess that my 7mo, who shocked me and the rest of the world by consistently sleeping through the night from the age of 3 days, no longer does so with any measure of consistency.  You can stop hating me now.  It really was too good to last, just like you were hoping.
I might also add that The Boy occasionally wakes up in my bed.  How did he get there?! and how did he know to go to hubby’s side of the bed? He obviously knows that in the middle of the night, I AM THE MONSTER UNDER THE BED!  Don’t wake me up unless there’s blood or a whole lot of vomit somewhere.  Even then, be afraid.
And while I’m on a roll, you might as well know that 4yo Rachael just fell asleep in my bed.  In our defense, Rachael dozed off waiting to say goodnight to her daddy before she went to bed.  I just carried her back to her own bed, where I expect her to stay.
So take the advice for what it’s worth.  All in all, our children have been spectacular sleepers in spite of the small houses we’ve always lived in.  But consistency isn’t the same as perfection; even children that sleep all night consistently don’t do it perfectly.

From the mailbag: Bedtime for kids sharing a room

From Shannon

Hey Kim.  We enjoy your blog a lot.  A few months back, you mentioned your bedroom arrangements.  I was wondering since you have big and littles in the same room, how you handle bed times. Like does everyone go to bed at the same time? Or do the littles got to bed earlier and listen while adults and bigger kids laugh and talk etc?  We currently have all the biggers in one room and the littles in another so the olders can stay up a little later and read etc.  But, I like the idea of having an older one in charge of each room.  So, I was just wondering your thoughts on this.


Our little ones usually go to bed before the big ones, but this doesn’t pose a problem as far as we’re concerned.  We’ve never worried about the children going right to sleep so long as they are lying quietly in bed.  If you can let go of that concern, the whole dynamic of bedtime changes.

We do expect the general noise level in the house to decrease once the younger children are in bed, but our house is small with a very open layout so they can hear everything that happens and can even see much of  it.

There may be an adjustment period, but we think it’s worth it.  If they are genuinely tired, they will doze off.  If they’re not tired yet, no amount of tip-toeing will help.

The only drawback we’ve experienced is a certain inevitable limitation upon late night treats.  I just can’t get past the ovarian guilt when I know a little one is still awake and can smell what we’re up to.   That’s why there’s still a whole bag of cheesesticks in the freezer even though hubby surprised me with them 2 weeks ago.  Not enough to go around, and little noses everywhere.  sigh.

This reminds me of my little brother.  One night long after he was in bed, Mom and we older girls were indulging in a late night treat: ice cream.  As we ate and chatted softly, we heard the swish-swish of little feet in pajamas.  3yo Kyle poked his tousled head around the corner, rubbing his eyes and looking groggy.  He peered and squinted at us.  “I heard spoons.


He’s not so little any more, but can’t you just picture him in jammies with swish-swish feet?

Our Charge System: big ones helping little ones

From Dovey

I have a question about that — maybe you could do a post on it and offer advice to those of us that are a little behind you in terms of children.  I love the idea of the older taking “charge” of a younger sibling, and I’m trying to instill in my boys that they are the protector of their sister.  I have a 6 yob, 4yog, 2yob and another little guy coming in December.  The 6yo boy takes his responsibility seriously, often continuously reminding the other two of their responsibilities or warning them of their waywardness. 🙂  The other two simply don’t appreciate it.  There are many “you are not my boss!” and “you are not my mom!” being thrown around.  The oldest also gets carried away from time to time as well, and I have to remind him that he is NOT their boss and not to take things so personally.  So…… what age do they become “in charge” of a younger sibling and how do you handle the sibling rivalry that results out of a genuine concern — the other is going to get in trouble if they don’t finish cleaning or come right when called, the other is doing something that, if caught, will bring immediate discpline, etc.?  I’d love to hear your opinions on this!

Wow!  This is a tough set of questions, one that we grapple with constantly.  How do we find that delicate balance in which the younger ones respect and obey their older siblings without encouraging and allowing the older ones to “lord it over” the younger ones?

As with any other subject, we’re a long way from having this all figured out, but I’ll give you some of our own guidelines and maybe you will find them useful in your house.

Duties of younger siblings

First of all, the younger ones are to respect the older ones.  I often hear myself saying things like, “Your sister is older and wiser than you.  When she says you should/shouldn’t do that, you had better listen to her.  She’s probably right, and she’s trying to help you stay out of trouble.”  Notice that I didn’t say the younger always have to obey the older ones, but I do think they need to establish a pattern of heeding good counsel and respecting their elders – even bossy older sisters.

When a young ones gets in trouble and I learn that the older ones warned her, she’s in double trouble for ignoring good counsel.

Secondly, when the older ones are left in charge (we now have children old enough to babysit), the standard is a little different.  The younger ones do have to obey, even if the older ones are – or seem – bossy and unreasonable.  In these situations I say something like, “Your sister is in charge of you by my authority.  You need to obey your parents in the Lord (Eph. 6:1) by obeying the sister I set over you today.  Even if you think she’s being crabby or too bossy, you need to obey her sweetly and talk to me about it later.”

That covers the duties of the younger ones toward the older ones, but we also need to address the reverse.

Duties of older siblings

If I am home, the older ones are not generally allowed to correct their siblings in my presence.  “Hello.  My name is Kim, and I’m the mom today.  Thank you.”

If I’m present but not responding to the actions of a younger one and an older child really think it’s important, she can quietly call my attention without tattling: “Mom, do you realize that she is…?”

If I’m not in the room to witness the need for correction, the older ones should ideally handle it in by invoking the name of a parental unit:  “Do Mom and Dad allow you to do that?” instead of “Hey!  Quit it!”  I often have to remind the older ones that it’s not their job to make their younger sibs obey under these circumstances – only to offer sound advice.  While the younger ones are doubly responsible if they fail to heed good advice, the older ones need to know when to step back and let the young ones get themselves into trouble.

If I am not home and have left an older child in charge, she is admonished not to be too bossy.  She might be reminded that harshness on her part will encourage rebellion on the part of those under her authority, making her partly responsible for leading them into sin.  She is often reminded that we are lending her the authority that God gave us over our children, so she needs to use it carefully and properly.  And she’s reminded to see that the house stays clean.  🙂

All of these examples use mom instead of dad, but I think it’s worth mentioning that all of this was not just my own doing.  Hubby and I have developed this system together, and it all applies equally with either parent.  It’s vitally important to follow your husband’s lead in how you deal with and delegate authority among your children, since you and your husband set a highly visible example of authority and obedience for your children each day.

From the mailbag: multiple miscarriages, and no living children


Hi. I was wondering if you could direct me to any blogs of families who follow the quiverfull philosophy but have also experienced recurrent miscarriage. Specifically I am looking for people who are in a situation where they have lost more babies than they have living but they continue to TTC [trying to conceive]. I have had a hard time finding anything of the sort, and that is my situation (1 living baby, 3 miscarriages) and it would be encouraging to read about the stories of others who have been in my shoes and continue to TTC. It seems like most people in my situation give up 🙁

We had a stillborn daughter and two miscarriages, so we do understand the sorrow of losing a child you never knew, though we have also been blessed with plenty of living children to soften the grief.  I’m sure you realize – at least in your head – that it’s better for a soul to praise God for all eternity, than never have lived.  Your children are temporarily lost to you, but they are with God already and you’ll live with them forever soon enough.

But that doesn’t make it easy now, does it?

I know some of our readers are in the same boat.  I’m hoping they’ll speak up with an encouraging word for you.

Samaritan Ministries: an alternative to health insurance

I’ve posted about Samaritan Ministries in the past, and I can’t say enough good things about them.  I think they have a fantastic system worked out, and if you’re looking for an alternative to traditional health insurance, this might be perfect for you.

I’m still receiving some questions about Samaritan, so thought I’d share the answers here in case anyone else is interested.

How does Samaritan work?

I think I read on your blog that you use Samaritan for your insurance program.  We are facing a substantial rise in our insurance costs and hoped you would give me some info. on it?  We are a family of 8 and are really only interested in major type medical coverage.  One of our boys tends to be accident prone so we definitely need insurance that actually will cover expenses if/when he hurts himself! Thanks for your help.

Samaritan members pay only the first $300 of any eligible medical expense, so it could be just what you’re looking for.  The cost is currently $285/month for a family of any size.  It’s very easy to submit a need, and I have a whole pile of lovely cards with personal messages from members’ payments when Bethany was born.  We even received cards from people who weren’t assigned to send payments.  That’s what you get when you are joined with Christian brethren.  🙂

Does Samaritan really work?

My husband is a little hesitant about not having traditional insurance.  Do people actually pay what you what they are supposed to?

When you submit a need, you receive a checklist of who is supposed to send payment and how much.  After a certain amount of time, you send it back to Samaritan.  We have found that most members pay very promptly but if anyone didn’t pay, that share is assigned to a new member and Samaritan deals with the non-paying member.  It’s very easy on your end.
For example, when Bethany was born we were supposed to receive payments from 21 members.  By the end of the month, 19 had paid and I sent my checklist back to Samaritan.  The next month we received a new checklist, and the other 2 payments came from different members.

How much does Samaritan cost?

When I read the paperwork, it said that the monthly amounts don’t change unless the board initiates it.  Has that ever happened?

Yes, it’s happened once or twice since we joined several years ago.  Of course we don’t like to see prices go up, but the increases were moderate, based upon the total amount of needs received, and it’s still far cheaper than if we were to buy traditional health insurance.  Our monthly share has also occasionally been less than what we expected, just because there were fewer needs submitted for that month.

The current price for a family is $285/month, and much less for singles or single parents.  We especially like Samaritan Ministries because they don’t charge per person; in a big family, the “family rate” becomes a really great deal.  I also love that they waive the $300 deductible for homebirths.  While traditional health insurance often penalizes people for choosing to birth at home, Samaritan Ministries seems to recognize that it is both safer and less expensive.

Um…we also like their generous referral program, so if you decide to join up please tell them Kim Coghlan sent you.  Because the only thing nicer than the current price tag of Samaritan coverage is getting it for half price.  If you’re interested, Samaritan will send you an info packet.

More questions?  Look here.  If you don’t find your answer, try me.

Money for kids

Monica asked about ways that our girls make a little extra money.  I emailed her, but thought my answer might be the start of a useful post.  Here are some of the ways our children earn money.

  • I have allowed the girls to put items up for sale on Ebay for us.  If it’s something I would have sold myself, I might split the proceeds with them.  If it’s something I wouldn’t have bothered with, I let them keep the money.  Those high-dollar baby formula coupons that arrive in the mail sell surprisingly well.  🙂
  • They buy items from the Vision Forum clearance shelf (at the on-site retail store, not the online Clearance Outlet) to post on their For Sale page.
  • They combined their savings a while back and bought an expensive female Yorkie to breed.  This little business investment of theirs was far more work than they expected, but it did pay off.
  • Our oldest can now earn a paycheck when she works with her dad at Vision Forum, so she likes to pay her siblings generously to do her household chores on days that she is gone.  We allow this because she sees it as a way to share a blessing with her sisters.
  • We don’t do allowances, but I often hire the girls to do extra work for me, such as compiling a mailing list or doing graphic design for a family website.  I often hire little ones to make my bed, brush my hair, etc.  During the warm weather, I usually have a bounty out on flies and daddy longlegs in the house.

None of these might be practical for your family, but we find that there are always opportunities if you look hard enough and have a bit of patience.

We are rather limited because we live in a very rural setting, but if you live in the city you might find many opportunities with the neighbors:

  • Yard care: lawn mowing, leaf raking, snow shoveling, poop scooping, weeding flowerbeds, etc.  Hubby and I mowed lawns one summer, raking in over $2000 in the evenings with our $300 investment in a mower and weed eater, and a $4 classified ad.  We once paid a kid to shovel the snow on our sidewalk simply because we appreciated his motivation.
  • Misc. services: dog walking, house-sitting, pet-sitting and plant-sitting for vacationers, putting out the weekly trash, garage organization.
  • Offer services: let your young entrepreneur knock on doors and tell the neighbors, “I’m trying to earn $50 for a ___.  Do you have any small jobs I can do to get started?”
  • Babysitting: an older child of yours could babysit in your own home if you prefer.
  • Yard sale: they could have a yard sale for you, doing all of the work and keeping some or all of the proceeds.  They could offer to clean neighbors’ garages, etc. and have a yard sale with the castoffs.
  • Recycling: the price of aluminum is currently very low, but it fluctuates.  My daughter and a few of my youngest sibs gathered a pickup load of cans a couple of years ago and earned over $150!
  • Housecleaning: I started doing this for some of my dad’s coworkers at the tender age of 12.  By the time I was 17 I had a small business.

How do your children earn money?  How else could they earn money?

From the mailbag: homeschooling, and more

I have allowed quite a few questions to build up in my inbox. I try to answer all of my email, but sometimes I simply don’t keep up and I always feel a bit guilty when that happens.  I’m going to give the quick answers to a few here, and I’m hoping you all will chime in with more and better advice.

From LaSandra

I was wondering if you could tell me a bit more about when you begin to formally homeschool? I want to homeschool my children and the oldest turns 3 next month. Someone asked me when I was going to start homeschooling and I realized I didn’t know:)
I have read a lot of homeschoolers articles that say 3-4 years old is too early and that just reading, playing, singing, doing crafts etc is enough at this point. Would you agree?

We believe that our duty to educate our children starts at birth.  We are teaching our children every day, whether we try or not.  With this in mind, it becomes difficult to pin down exactly when homeschooling begins.

Is it when you first sing the ABC’s with your child?  Is it when you help her count her pennies or pieces of candy?  Is it when you first help her write a letter to Grandma?

School in our house becomes more advanced year by year, but it didn’t start at age 3, 5, or 7.  It started at birth.  It also doesn’t start at 8:30 AM, 9:00 or 10:00.  It starts when we rise in the morning.

For more on this, I highly recommend Victoria Botkin’s Curriculum Advice CDs.  I can’t say enough good things about these!  Watch for a giveaway very soon!

From Lauren

My question is about homeschooling in TX. My son is only 3.5 so we have some time to figure out the legal issues, but I definitely want to know what is in store for us. If I understand correctly, we need to register as a private school. How do you go about doing this?

Also, my son just started reading. Do you have an recommendations for preschool homeschooling? I don’t see any reason to wait until the magical age of 5 to start teaching, especially since he’s already reading. So far I’ve used Barbara Curtis’ Mommy Teach Me and Mommy Teach Me to Read, which I like very much. However, I would also love to find something a bit more structured. What do you suggest for the young’ins?



The HSLDA site has a map which gives a brief summary of the homeschooling laws state-by-state.  According to this map, Texas is one of several states requiring no notice; they say that Texas has no state requirement for parents to initiate any contact.  If you click on Texas, you can will find a PDF which provides a more detailed analysis of the homeschooling law in Texas.

We don’t use a structured program now, but in the past we used and enjoyed Sonlight’s program for young children.  This is a flexible program based heavily around literature.  It’s not a “canned curriculum,” but it provides enough structure to help new homeschoolers gain confidence.

From Kristi

I love when you share stuff like this, it really helps those of us who are still “in the trenches” with mostly little ones, know there is hope.
You mentioned having a dirty house in those years, that’s one of the things I struggle with right now, feeling like I need to get it all done perfectly. There is so much pressure on conservative, Christian women to get up before dawn, keep the house spotless, cloth diaper, grow your own veggies, grind your own flour, bake your own bread, sew your own clothes, eat on less than $20 a week, and on and on. I finally had to stop visiting many online sites and blogs because there was no way I was going to start doing all of that…excess. Right now, it’s all about surviving and thriving the best we can. But I often struggle with guilt that I don’t have my kids on a reliable homeschool schedule, my house isn’t always spotless, I don’t make my own bread, or grind my own wheat, and on and on. How do you feel about these issues? What do you think are the non-negotiables for a mom of young kids to be accomplishing?


I suspect every mom struggles with these questions.  I think it’s not quite such a hard question if you ask your questions from a Christian worldview.  As you search for answers, ask yourself:

  1. How can I best serve God right now?
  2. How is this particular chore important in my service to Him?  (Yes, it pleases God when we mop.  But let’s make sure we are mopping for the right reason!)
  3. Are my priorities in line with my husband’s?  (Am I serving PB&J for dinner so I have time to clean house, when he would rather I spent a little more time on dinner?)
  4. Am I working to please God or to please others?  Am I creating more work for myself by holding to the arbitrary standards of others?  (for example, If it’s not dirty don’t clean it)

Non-negotiables?  These will vary depending upon a lot of factors, not the least of which is your husband’s desires and standards.  Again, be sure to hold yourself to God’s standard and not that of your neighbors, relatives, or favorite blogger.


Dear readers, please don’t think that I have it all together in any of these areas.  I find myself feeling convicted as I compose answers to these questions from readers.

My children are bright, but they have gaps in their knowledge.  I regularly hear myself say, “You don’t know…?!”  This is not a reason to feel like a failure; this is a reason to pull out a good book or fire up the internet or have a good discussion and fill that gap!

My house is generally a few short minutes from being reasonably orderly, but is rarely clean. Just don’t look in the kids’ rooms.  Don’t look in any bedrooms, for that matter.

Hubby would probably like more elaborate dinners, and here I sit blogging.  But he also likes the fact that I blog and run our online entrepreneurial enterprises.  These require a very real time commitment, and so I must prioritize.  At what point would he want me to switch tasks?  It’s a balancing act and it’s easy to get caught up in what I want – self-service.  And so again, I sit and blog.

The baby would like to be fed – NOW.  Here’s where ovarian guilt comes in.  Hit the publish button, just hit it…